Season one: not a single piece was purchased for my loved ones. How embarrassing.

Season two: I did not have room in my car (no joke) to fit the enormity of my intimates-spending. Friends, sisters, mom, aunts, and neighbours received new bras and undies—or both, if they were on my Nice list. 

What inspired this change of heart? Watching women’s eyes light up as they saw themselves in a new bra—one that fit, flattered, and held. It was the look on people’s faces when they realized their new trove of period underwear meant never having to do a tampon run again. 

Then, just like that, any apprehension I had about gifting intimates dissipated. In fact, knowing its everyday impact and function, intimates became my gifting go-to. 

Sure, it was daunting, at first, to consider buying something so personal—and, to be sure, intimates are a gift that requires more intentionality than others. But once you know how to gift someone intimates they’ll love, it’s impossible to deny its potential to transform the day-to-day lives of those on your list. 

With that, consider this your modern guide to mastering the art of gifting intimates—from A to H (cup). 

Step 1: Ditch the Discomfort 

It’s time to abandon the clichés surrounding gifting intimates. 

Sure, intimates and lingerie make for a romantic gesture from partner to partner. But outside of Valentine’s Day tropes and garments designed mostly for the male gaze, there exists a world of intimates designed for everyday comfort and function. 

We love a lacy, feathery moment—but gifting your best friend a sports bra for that half-marathon she’s training for or adding to cart a period kit for your niece is something different altogether. It’s just thoughtful. 

So, let’s ditch any outdated notions of what it means to fish a comfy, wireless bra out of your stocking. Once you do, you’ll be surprised by how ‘not weird’ the experience actually is. 

Step 2: Consider Their Style

Part of what makes intimates such a meaningful gift is just how personal it is. That means it might not be the right gift for everyone—but that’s just what makes it the perfect gift for select people on your gift-list. 

It takes a good friend, a perceptive parent, or a caring aunt to know your favorite bra has sweat stains on it (and has also been in your top drawer since college)—or that you’ve been spinning your wheels trying to find a nursing bra that’s actually comfortable. 

But just like a delicate piece of jewelry, there’s some sleuthing required when it comes to gifts this personalized. Everyone has their own distinct sense of style and priorities when it comes to intimates. 

To get a sense of your loved ones preferences, you can start by asking yourself a few key questions. First and foremost is functionality. What does their everyday life look like? Are they transitioning from office to post-work pilates classes on the daily? Do they spend their days chasing after toddlers? Are they careening towards adolescence at the speed of light? 

Next, think of their style and taste. Does it lean towards the feminine or masculine? Are they a devout minimalist or an eccentric with an affinity for vivid patterns? Are they astrology-obsessed? 

When in doubt, it’s also ok to ask. Or, you know, take a peek in their closet. It’s for a good cause. 

Step 3: Find the Right Fit 

Just like any other piece of clothing, gifting the perfect bra, underwear, or shapewear means figuring out what size to get. 

While underwear size is easier to decipher—or even make an educated guess—bras and their band-to-cup specificities can prove slightly more challenging. 

Again, there’s nothing wrong here with simply asking. But if the element of surprise is essential to your gift-giving philosophy, there are more subtle ways you can find out. Like, say, comparing cup sizes over lunch. 

When all else fails, call in backup in the form of a family member or partner. They’re likely to know your loved ones' size or, at the very least, can be a trusted ally in your mission to find out. 

Keep in mind, our bodies are ever-changing and in constant flux. Don’t fret if you don’t get it exactly right. You can always exchange for the right size without diminishing the thoughtfulness of the gift. If it still feels too risky, gift cards always fit just right. 

Step 4: Get Inspired 

Now, let’s get to the fun part. 

Once you’ve checked off steps 1 through 3, all that’s left to do is imagine the possibilities. Go shopping, browse online, make a Pinterest board, if you want. Just try not to get overwhelmed by the sheer volume of styles, silhouettes, and colors there are to comb through. 

This is your moment to get your bestie onto the period underwear you’ve been raving about for months, or to splurge on an impeccably-designed wireless bra you know she’d never get for herself. 

This is when you get to contemplate whether their daring style will be best accentuated by a full mesh bra, or just a sheer cutout. It’s when you get to pick out a sports bra you know they’ll feel cute in at the gym.

And that’s the beauty of intimates as gifts—they can translate into the ultimate acts of self-care. The best gifts, it turns out, are the ones that slide seamlessly into our everyday lives. 

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For more inspiration, get to know our favorite wireless bra styles or consult our absorbency guide for tips on finding the right period underwear.  

For model and entrepreneur Lauren Chan, though, the holidays are less about some curated vision and more about doing what feels good. These days, that looks like doing what feels right for her, blending her family traditions with those of her partner, and carving out moments of self-care.

She approaches the season as an invitation to unwind, reflect, and create new traditions alongside her partner. As Lauren says, her holidays are focused on “doing what I need to recharge, reflect on the year and how much I've grown, or haven’t, what I want to focus on next, and really relax from work, and take time to just be.”

Her fashion pedigree (she’s the founder of inclusive clothing brand Henning and a former Glamour editor), gives Lauren an air of laid-back refinement—and her approach to this season is all about bringing this sense of ease to cultivating down-to-earth joy and cozy vibes, with a sprinkle of spontaneity. 

So whether you’re looking to redefine your holiday or just need a reminder that joy comes from small, meaningful rituals, here’s Lauren’s guide to celebrating the holidays, your way.

Blending Traditions: Creating Something New and True

For Lauren, sharing the holidays with her partner has meant combining family traditions with a bit of personal flair. “I have a new family with my new partner, and so last year was our first Christmas together, and it was really interesting to incorporate traditions from her family, mine, and some new things of our own,” she says.  

Rather than planning a jam-packed holiday agenda, the two opted for a quiet, personalized celebration in an Airbnb upstate. “We did our own holiday in an Airbnb, upstate New York, and we made some of the dishes that were familiar from our families, and did things like opening presents at the same time,” says Lauren. “But it’s definitely new to just have us, the dog, hike, genuinely relax, and not have too much obligation, too many scheduled dinners, and just kind of be together.”

Self-Care During the Holidays: Giving Yourself Room to Pause

In recent years, Lauren has redefined what holiday self-care means to her, shifting from a packed schedule to something slower and more mindful. Before, her holidays used to mean rushing between commitments, making sure to see everyone and fit everything in.

Now, she gives herself permission to hit pause and use the season to recharge. “It really used to be focused on the hustle and bustle, seeing people, scheduled dinners, coming home to Canada, and making sure that I fit everything in for everybody else,” she shares. “I think that self-care for the holidays now, for me, looks like a moment to reset, recharge, reflect, and re-energize for the new year.”

Getting Cozy: Creating a Holiday Mood

Lauren’s holiday “love language” is all about ambiance—a relaxed setting, vibey music, and a good glass of red wine. 

“I love the feeling of the house when there's no Slack notifications going off, and you've got decorations up, and there's a little bit of music on, and there's a candle you can smell, and all you have to do that day is relax and cook,” she says effusively. “I just love that feeling. That's holiday love to me.”

When it comes to creating a festive atmosphere, magic-making is in the small things. For Lauren, it’s about capturing a feeling of ease and comfort in her space through sensory pleasures—the scent of a seasonal candle or the feeling of sharing a family recipe with someone you love. 

Reflect and Recharge: Finding Space to Reset

The end of the year is a natural moment to pause and reflect, giving Lauren time to consider where she’s been and where she’s headed. “I think that's the sweet secret recipe of the end of the year and the start of the new year,” she says. “It's both reflection on the last year and that reflection, as well as that pause, that studying of yourself allows space for you to think about what you want next.”

Instead of wrapping up the holidays with more things to do, she gifts herself a break—and maybe even a weekend away to relax. “What am I gifting myself this year? Time off. Maybe I'll get a little weekend away at a nice place and really relax.”

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By blending traditions, redefining self-care, and embracing a new holiday rhythm, Lauren’s approach is proof that holiday traditions are best when they stay true to what feels good to you. 

It’s a much-needed reminder that when we take a step back from seasonal pressures, make space to recharge, share small, meaningful moments, and create personalized rituals, we really can make the holidays our own. 

For many Canadian athletes, the financial burden of pursuing excellence—covering costs like proper nutrition, top-tier equipment, and essential coaching—can be overwhelming. 

Enter CAN Fund, a non-profit organization founded by Jane Roos, dedicated to supporting Canadian athletes by providing direct financial assistance to help them reach their full potential. 

Over the years, CAN Fund #150Women has become a lifeline for female athletes, ensuring that they have the resources they need to compete at the highest levels. In partnership with the Sport Your Period movement, aimed at lessening period stigma in sports, Knix donated $1 from the sale of all Knix activewear items sold between July 25 and September 1, 2024, with up to $25,000 of activewear sales going towards the organization. 

Jane Roos’ journey to founding CAN Fund is one marked by resilience and a deep-seated commitment to helping others succeed. A former athlete herself, Jane grew up with a passion for track and field, dreaming of one day representing Canada on the world stage. 

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However, her life took a tragic turn when a car accident claimed the life of her best friend and ended her athletic and modeling careers. Despite this devastating loss, Jane channeled her grief into a new purpose. Through her own struggles, she discovered a calling to support athletes who faced the same barriers she once did. 

What began as a small fundraising effort during her recovery has since blossomed into the largest direct funding organization of Canadian athletes. For over 20 years, thousands of athletes have been impacted by CAN Fund helping to make their dreams achievable.

Jane’s personal philosophy of focusing on the "why" rather than the "how" has guided her throughout this journey, enabling her to build a movement that not only funds athletes but also inspires Canadians to believe in the power of collective support. 

Her story is a testament to the idea that even in the face of adversity, one can find purpose and create lasting change. Through CAN Fund, Jane continues to uplift athletes, ensuring that their success on the world stage inspires future generations to dream big.

Ahead, catch us in conversation with Jane as we talk period stigma in sports, her aspirations for the future, and the challenges facing female athletes today. 

How have your personal experiences shaped the inception of CAN Fund #150Women and its support of athletes?

As a female entrepreneur, I'm really bold. I just ask. I feel like more women need to ask for what they want. I always say to women: share one thing you want and one thing you can give. We're all in this together, right? 

With CAN Fund #150Women, I noticed that most of our donors were men. The reason it’s called CAN Fund #150Women is because most events are $150, and I wanted every woman in this country to give $150 or more.

I thought, if every woman out there became the woman they needed when they were in the thick of it—when nobody was showing up for them, or giving them resources and opportunities—that could make a difference in the lives of athletes. 

Our first CAN Fund #150Women recipient was figure skater Piper Gilles. Today, we’ve now funded 580 female athletes. We give each athlete $8,000. I call female athletes and say you’re gaining thousands of dollars, and it’s from women in this country stepping up, showing up, believing and investing in you. 

We’re changing the narrative—it’s not women against women. With CAN Fund #150Women, it’s women celebrating women. What we try to do is build a community where everyone shares their knowledge, their interests, and their passions. 

What unique challenges do female athletes face, and how does CAN Fund #150Women specifically address those challenges?

The sports system in Canada is really broken. Three-time, four-time, five-time Olympians still apply to CAN Fund #150Women. The majority of athletes go into debt in order to continue to compete. For many sports to be on the national team, you often have to pay what's called a team fee.

I think what CAN Fund #150Women has done for our female athletes has changed their experience of what it means to be a female athlete in this country. It means that other women are backing you.

Sometimes, for athletes, it’s not the best athletes that get into certain competitions—it’s the athletes who can afford to. With CAN Fund #150Women, we want to level the playing field. We want everyone to have the same opportunities. We want to give everyone resources they can access.  

There’s obviously anxiety and pressure, but there’s also not a lot of community among female athletes. When you know that 500+ female athletes are part of a community, that makes a difference. We have programs for athletes who are struggling, we’ll match them with an athlete who can help them through it. 

We help athletes learn how to brand themselves better, how to do public speaking. We give them tools and offer classes. For me, it’s always about matching the needs of people. What we’re doing with CAN Fund #150Women is building a community that doesn’t exist in Canada for female athletes.

Were you surprised by any of the survey results that came out of CAN Fund’s survey on period stigma in sports, in partnership with Knix?

I don't think I was surprised, only because I’ve worked so closely with female athletes. A lot of athletes are pitted against each other based on performance. 

The fact that a female athlete isn’t sharing that she’s on her period or having issues, whether it’s a miscarriage, low self-esteem, or an eating disorder. I feel like these conversations need to be had more. I think the Sport Your Period campaign created space for this. 

I love the whole campaign. I love that we got to ask our athletes about their experiences of menstruation in sports. The response we got from a lot of the athletes we surveyed was, thank you for asking, thank you for letting me share.

I know some of the athletes wrote that they won medals in their period underwear—and they’re like, that’s all I wear now. 

What are your aspirations for the future of CAN Fund #150Women?

I would love to increase the amount of funding we give each athlete because of the amount of debt they often accumulate in representing our country.

This year we did the Be Epic Awards—we had women across the country nominate women who are epic in their community. I'd like to see the Be Epic Awards become a big annual event where we celebrate women for being epic. 

I’d love for our membership to explode. Every time women get together, that’s when magic happens. We’ve helped 580 female athletes who are all phenomenal and are competing on the world stage. I think we need more of this in Canada—we need to celebrate people more. 

The biggest problem we have is that most female athletes in this country are in debt—and the majority of people don’t think that’s their scenario. When you’re watching the Games, you think they’re able, they’re strong, they’re beautiful, and they have no idea the realities of being an athlete. 

But I can see where we’re supposed to be. I know we’re going to get there. 

In recent years, a deluge of research into period stigma in athletics has brought to light some alarming stats—especially when it comes to young menstruators and athletes. As it turns out, 1 in 2 teens skips sports due to their period. 

It got us thinking: are pro athletes dealing with the same outdated stigma around periods? 

Powered by non-profit organization CAN Fund #150Women, we commissioned our own survey into period-related experiences among elite athletes. “The survey is a first of its kind,” says CAN Fund founder Jane Roos. “Asking the important questions and having a bigger conversation about menstruation and its impact is starting to normalize it.” 

The outcome? There’s still a lot of work to do, as more than half of polled athletes report fears of leaks and discomfort around period talk as common barriers. 

“I have encountered some stigma around talking about my period in sports,” says veteran WNBA player Layshia Clarendon—confirming even athletes at the highest levels are having to bench period talk. 

But beyond our findings, we’re also ready to retaliate. With the Sport Your Period movement—and a little help from soccer legend Megan Rapinoe—we’re calling on athletes from around the world to talk openly about their periods on the public platform of their choice. We’ll even pay them if they do it. 

There’s no catch, just a plea to keep young athletes in sports. Period. 

For an eye into the lived experiences of pro athletes, the toll of period stigma, and how the (crimson) tide is changing, The Lift chatted with world-class athletes to better understand why period taboo persists in today’s world of sports, and what we can do to change it. 

Athletes Compete on Their Period All the Time 

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If your period routine consists of burying yourself in a heap of snacks and Midol, we’re right there with you. But consider this, despite the brain fog and cramps, 99% of athletes have competed on their period at an international competition.

Having competed during her period too many times to count (even twice during the same month-long tournament), two-time World Cup champion, Megan Rapinoe, says periods “are as normal as breathing.” 

And, yet, period talk is far from routine for many athletes. While nutrition and training regimens are habitually taken into consideration when it comes to optimizing both performance and personal wellbeing, menstruation—and its effects—often remain a gaping blind spot.

Offering up a fun fact about themselves, Los Angeles Sparks player, Layshia, rightfully boasts about winning a gold medal with Team USA while on her period. “I thought that was so cool at the moment, but no one else was talking about these things,” he says. “I’m stoked that Knix is finally shifting that conversation.” 

Competitors the likes of triathlete, Emma Pallant-Browne, and marathon runner, Kiran Gandhi, have invigorated cultural discourse by choosing to bleed openly. After crossing the finish line in fourth place at the PTO European Open last year, an ecstatic Emma shared photos online in which period blood visibly saturated her pink swimsuit. 

“If you wrote to me saying 99% of the women you know would be mortified at this then that is exactly why I am sharing this, because there really is nothing wrong,” she retorted in the caption of a follow-up post. “A period is a normal thing, and I don’t want anyone to feel ashamed of it.” 

During the London Marathon nearly a decade ago, artist Kiran Gandhi faced similar backlash for making the conscious decision to free-bleed during her 26-mile run. 

In the aftermath and global discussion that ensued, “there is actually much more stigma around menstruation than we could have ever imagined,” she said. “As I ran, I thought to myself about how women and men have been socialised to pretend periods don’t exist.”

Why Is There Still So Much Stigma?

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If there’s anything we remember about being teens, it’s that period shame seemed to be reinforced at every turn. 

From glossy magazines filled with confession-style submissions on period mishaps to tampon ads that emphasized secrecy, the protocol was made clear: hide your period at all costs. 

And while the period positivity movement has certainly made a dent in period stigma’s performative exterior—as have outspoken athletes and advocates—in the sports world, it’s clear that period talk is still often reduced to whispers. 

According to CAN Fund #150Women survey results, 75% of athletes have a fear of leaking while competing. 

Working to minimize this fear comes down to a few things—the first being providing athletes a greater (and more adequate) variety of period product options. 

While every period has distinct needs, athletes have unique considerations to keep in mind when it comes to menstrual care. Finding coverage that holds up during hours-long competitions, withstands arduous physical challenges, and provides freedom of movement is no easy feat.

When athlete Emma Pallant-Browne leaked during her triathlon, for instance, it was because her tampon wasn’t absorbent enough to last the duration of her triathlon—saying, “No matter what tampon I have experimented with, for anything over 3 hrs it’s too heavy.”

Kiran Gandhi, on the other hand, opted not to wear period protection altogether due to comfort preferences and the potential for chafing. 

Over the past few years, period products have expanded to include innovations like period-proof underwear and leggings, making it easier for athletes to focus on bringing their A-game (instead of checking their shorts for traces of period blood). 

“We can normalize it by providing things like tampons and pads in locker rooms, and having teams provide items like a pair of period underwear for their athletes when needed,” says PWHL hockey player Zoe Boyd.

And while we’re glad to see the period product landscape evolve to meet the needs of athletes, we can also lessen fears of leaks by, well, making period leaks less of a big deal. 

Better alternatives need to be made openly available to athletes—especially teens in sports—but the solution may not just be to better conceal periods. Lessening stigma also means empowering freedom of choice. 

“I've been a girl in school who started their period,” says Megan, recalling the early days of balancing menstruation and athleticism. “I've been in a sports environment where I've bled through—or where I’ve had to deal with having a period. It's a lot.” 

Whether athletes choose to sport period-proof shorts or free-bleed, it should be their prerogative. Because when the sight of periods—or sound of period talk—becomes less of a big deal, so will fear of leaks. 

And when teens see their favorite athletes talking freely about overcoming period cramps in the final quarter, they’ll know it’s not a big deal, too. 

Fostering Period-Friendly Sports Environments 

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Like so many taboos, period stigma is built on misconceptions and stereotypes surrounding conventional notions of femininity. 

But when periods remain a taboo subject—whether it be in high school locker rooms or world-class arenas—athletes miss out on gaining the support and resources they need (and deserve!). 

In the case of teens and young athletes, internalizing period discomfort, fears of leaks, and lack of access to the right products can lead to high dropout rates in sports. 

But, in many cases, stigma around these important issues are only reinforced by coaches and facilitators who avoid the topic of menstruation altogether. 

Even among pros, 64% of athletes report they have felt uncomfortable talking about their periods with their coaches. 

Normalizing period talk with coaches as part of regular health-related check-ins was a commonly stated desire among the athletes we interviewed. 

Former pro hockey player, Saroya Tinker, remembers being in season while dealing with unbearable period pain “and my male coach not being able to understand at all what we’re going through,” she says. “Sometimes we all sync up—and yes, coach, we are in fact all PMS-ing at the same time.” 

While it’s clear that mainstream attitudes around periods are in need of a major update, change also needs to be effected within teams and sports environments. 

“Open and honest conversation surrounding the topic of periods is essential to have if we want to further our knowledge into how we can perform our best as female athletes,” says Saroya. “If we don’t talk about it, we can’t learn.”

Track athlete, Phylicia George, echoes the thoughts of her fellow athlete when she says “Being a great athlete is understanding your body.” Part of which involves a better understanding of how you operate and perform on your period. “If you're ashamed of something, it's hard to be curious about it,” she adds. 

With period education and support being so sparse in sports environments, it’s no wonder teens are dropping out of sports due to period-related concerns. 

“It is extremely important for teams, coaches, and healthcare providers to foster an environment where athletes feel comfortable discussing menstrual health,” affirms Layshia. “Menstruation impacts performance—so why wouldn’t we discuss it as a way to help athletes be their best selves?”

To date, the sports world has largely been shaped by men, making periods an outlier—even among women-led teams and sports. For female athletes to thrive, women-first sports environments need to be cultivated.

“We happen to live in a world that has been crafted by the vision of men,” says Phylicia—but there are signs of change on the horizon. 

For one, cycle syncing—the practice of tailoring your workouts and nutrition around your hormonal cycle—is beginning to enter the mainstream. In the case of the U.S. Women’s National Soccer Team (USWNT), ahead of winning their fourth World Cup, tracked their periods and trained according to their cycles. 

By fostering a deeper level of bodily attunement, players were better able to adapt and work with their body’s natural rhythms—even while playing during more difficult phases of their cycle. And other teams are taking note. 

Athletes Are Speaking up to Keep Teens in Sports

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Overlooking periods is a massive disservice to athletes who should be given the resources to work with their bodies, instead of expending energy trying to mask menstruation altogether. 

In an ideal world, periods are unremarkable locker room fodder, conversations about symptoms and energy levels, routine conversation between coaches and players, and a plethora of period care options a normal facet of optimizing performance. 

The good news is, many athletes are working towards making this ideal a reality by taking to public forums to dish on the realities of performing at the highest levels on their period.

In conversation with Valeria Lipovetsky on the "Not Alone" podcast, world-class tennis player Eugenie Bouchard was outspoken about the stress of playing the U.S. Open on her period, having experienced painful cramps the day before her Grand Slam match. 

“Thank god this is just a practice day today because if I had to play my match today, it would be really hard,” she remembers thinking. 

Other cultural shifts, like athletes refusing to compete in all-white uniforms, are also taking place. In an important step towards acknowledging fears of leaks, some teams have opted to trade in their traditional white gear in favor of darker garments. 

Instead of simply taking their cues from men’s sporting uniforms, major sporting organizations and sports outfitters are finally beginning to take into consideration the comfort levels and needs of female athletes. 

As part of the Sport Your Period movement, athletes are also taking to the world stage to normalize their period experiences—and to inspire a new generation of young athletes to shed the stigma.

“I think brands like Knix, by creating this campaign and others like it, contribute immensely to athlete culture and support for athletes,” says Zoe. “Athletes can speak out, share their stories, hear others’ stories, relate to one another, and ultimately support each other, making for a stronger, more united, and safer community,” she adds. 

It may sound simple, but speaking up disrupts taboos, sending a powerful message that female athletes are done with discretion and expect their experiences to be centered both on and off the track. 

By sidelining period talk, athletes are only being held back. And the same barriers that discourage teen girls from participating in sports are only perpetuated. 

“I would love to tell young athletes that menstruation does not have to stop you from playing,” says Layshia. Today, after years on the court, they report feeling powerful knowing they can perform at the highest level while bleeding. 

“I hope that someone wins a championship, an MVP title, or a game-winner one day and says something about doing it while on their period in a live interview on ESPN.” 

Now that’s something we’d pay to see. 

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She recalls marveling at the superhuman abilities of the athletes on her TV screen as a kid—“I decided I wanted to become a superhero that day and fell in love with running.” In her teens, she scored a full athletic scholarship to the University of Connecticut, competing at her first world championship in 2011.

It was a breakout year for the burgeoning track star, who went on to be a three-time Olympic finalist. Intrigued by the possibility of doing something new, she also joined Canada’s bobsled team—officially adding dual season athlete to her already impressive resume. 

When she’s not at the track, you’ll find her harnessing her creative energy on social media, where footage of her athletic feats are often accompanied by soothing, poetic voice overs. To her, the convergence of sports and poetry lies in feelings of freedom and self-expression. 

It’s this same freedom of expression that has inspired Phylicia to join the growing chorus of athletes who are calling to end period stigma in sports as part of the Sport Your Period movement. 

According to a survey powered by CAN Fund #150Women, 75% of athletes have a fear of leaking while competing, while over 64% have felt uncomfortable talking about their periods with their coaches. 

It’s more abundantly clear than ever, then, that change needs to happen in order for athletes to receive the support and resources they need to feel and perform their best. 

Ahead, catch us in conversation with the world-class athlete as we explore her perspective on athletics as a creative outlet, empowering young athletes, and destigmatizing periods in sports.

As a writer and poet, how do you find that your creative side intersects with your athletic career?

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I actually found my creative side through my athletic career. I've always been creative with the way I dress, but I started realizing that running was a creative act in and of itself. I started finding all of these different aspects of being flexible and trying to find a different perspective. 

Even if I was having a bad day on the track, I would try to find metaphors to help me find the cue that I wanted—or I would try to find the imagery I needed to help me be better in this moment. 

That's poetry. I was literally writing poems in my head to help me run better. 

Photography, poetry, and writing, for me, always felt like this space of freedom and a really pure aspect of self-expression. To me, art and running, they're all just forms of expression of what you feel inside of yourself.

One thing you've spoken about is encouraging women not to live in silence and to be more outspoken about their needs and desires. I'm curious to know how this fits into normalizing and destigmatizing the conversation around periods in sports?

Audrey Lorde is a poet I really look up to—she wrote this book called Your Silence Will Not Protect You. And I just really took that to heart. I have this quote I just wrote down, she says:

“And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And at last you’ll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.”

This understanding of self-expression is knowing the fullness of yourself. Anytime we have to hide a part of ourselves behind something, it restricts all of us. For me, speaking about our periods and destigmatizing it is an aspect of who I am. 

This is who I am as a woman. This is something that I go through every single month. This is a huge part of my life. If I have to hide this behind a wall, that's going to affect every aspect of my life without me even realizing it. 

How can we create freedom in our voice? How can we create freedom in our expression? Periods are a beautiful part of who we are, so we need to be speaking about it openly and freely.

How do you think more open dialogue around menstruation in athletics stands to improve the sports landscape for burgeoning female athletes? 

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Again, it's this understanding that my period is something that happens for a week once a month. If it's something that I'm ashamed of, that's something that's going to be very restricting for me. 

My period is what links me to my ability to create and to make something new in this world. It’s a matter of shifting the idea around periods as something to be celebrated, something to speak openly about.

To me, it really is about creating a space where people feel free to speak about it so they can get the information they need.

There’s increasing mainstream discourse around period tracking and syncing. Athlete or not, it can be helpful to know what foods, nutrients, and exercise are conducive to your wellbeing throughout your cycle—it’s unfortunate that this isn’t generally part of what women and folks are taught about their bodies. 

Even just coming to the understanding that the world we live in is typically someone else’s vision—and we happen to live in a world that has been crafted by the vision of men. 

For men, their experience of their body is very stable in a lot of ways. A woman’s experience in her body is very cyclical. But when I think about it, the way a coach will prepare a program is in cycles. 

Why can’t it be a situation where we're understanding how your female athlete’s cycle is working? So, we’re lining things up better so she’s operating at her best at certain times, and having those harder workouts on the days when she’s not menstruating?

Those are all things that could be put into place. But again, that’s why it’s important to speak about it. We have this opportunity to craft a world within the vision of women’s voices. 

It’s so alarming to know that 1 in 2 teens skip sports due to their periods. In your opinion, what are the major barriers these young athletes face, and how can we address them?

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When I hear that statistic, I think about young women being in spaces where they're afraid of leakage, where they're afraid they might be humiliated in a public sphere. 

In the same way, when I think about being an athlete, one of the quotes my coach used to work with was “get really good at being injured.” It's almost like, how do I prepare for something that might happen? 

To me, it's about speaking out and putting young women in spaces where we're addressing this is something that could happen when you're menstruating. How can we ensure that you can be free on the court, and doing what you need to do without thinking in the back of your mind I might be leaking into my shorts.

It’s this understanding of providing knowledge and tools to understand your cycle. I think just creating that dialogue so girls are more excited to speak about their period. 

Do you find you’ve had to shift your own personal narrative around periods? The messaging around periods is so often around pain and discomfort. As an athlete, I can imagine you don’t necessarily want to arrive at the track thinking “I’m on my period, that’s a hindrance to my performance.” 

In life, the way I try to operate is: how can I find the most empowering mindset around something? Being an athlete has taught me that there's always going to be something in front of me—and it's my job to see how this is an empowering aspect for me. 

That's why I spoke about celebrating, because you can look at it as a hindrance. But if I go into a race thinking I'm at a deficit as opposed to thinking, I have this thing that is helping to make me more powerful, I have this thing that helps me to create, it feels more empowering. 

How do you hope initiatives, like Knix’s Sport Your Period, can make a difference in the lives of young athletes?

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It's really empowering to have somebody you look up to speaking about something. I think about when I was young and the impact people had on me—and it's interesting because they were all men. But now, it's so cool because Knix is doing the Sport Your Period campaign, and it's going to have prominent athletes speaking about their period. 

So it's this aspect of like, I'm already inspired by you. I already look up to you. I think you're super superhuman—and you're also showing me how we are similar, how we are connected, how what you go through is what I go through, and that you are thriving.

It's really beautiful because it is this opportunity to empower young girls. If someone I looked up to was speaking about it more openly when I was young, it would have encouraged me to do the same. I really believe in the value of inspiration. 

As someone who has excelled in sports, how can we empower young girls who may feel discouraged or limited by their periods to stay engaged and confident in their athletic pursuits?

I have a 4-year-old niece, so keeping young girls in sports is something that's been playing in my head a lot. Having young girls feel more comfortable in their bodies, learning how to celebrate their bodies—this campaign is normalizing speaking about things we have traditionally been told are a hindrance or something we should be ashamed of. 

If you're ashamed of something, it's hard to be curious about it—and curiosity is such a powerful thing. How can we make young girls more curious about their bodies, more excited and wanting to celebrate what they have? 

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In meetings and around the (metaphorical) water cooler, we talk about periods as routinely and unflinchingly as we would, say, what we’re having for lunch.

It’s a level of comfort—and a lack of stigma—that’s pretty aspirational. But we also get that outside these four walls, in other office spaces, and in settings both professional and personal, periods are often not afforded the same air of nonchalance. 

And one area in which this can especially be the case is in sports. 

Periods are supposed to be discreet, we’ve been told. Periods aren’t supposed to be announced—they’re a facet of our physiology that’s supposed to happen quietly in the background of everyday life. 

But for people who menstruate, periods are everyday life. They’re everyday life when you’re managing a hectic schedule, or are the athletic star of a major sporting event. 

In fact, a recent survey powered by CAN Fund #150Women shows that an astounding 99% of athletes have competed on their period at an international competition.

Two-time World Cup Champion, former Olympic Gold Medalist, and all-around soccer legend, Megan Rapinoe, is one such athlete, having competed on the world stage during her menstrual cycle too many times to count. Never one to shy away from speaking out against inequality, period stigma in sports is the latest target of her advocacy.

With the launch of Sport Your Period, the seasoned soccer player is lending her star-power to breaking barriers around periods in athletics. And as part of the campaign, athletes everywhere are being encouraged to wear visible red stickers, signaling that fear of leaks won’t deter them from pursuing the sports they love. 

Ahead, I sit down with Megan to chat about normalizing the conversation around periods in sports.

Joanna Griffiths: Okay, so we're here to talk about the Sport Your Period campaign, and also periods in general. Why is reducing stigma around menstruation in sports a cause that’s important to you?

Megan Rapinoe: I think the big picture is just women's equality, equity, and growth in the world to be who we are. Depending on where you are in the world, there's obviously levels to it. There's places where gender apartheid exists and places where girls don't even have access to menstrual products—much less the comfortability to talk about periods.

I've been a girl in school who started their period. I've been in a sports environment where I've bled through—or where I’ve had to deal with having a period. It's a lot. 

Put that into the context, particularly around young developing girls—what that can mean for their confidence and how they see themselves in the world. I think sport always has an incredible ability to speak to the entire world at the same time. 

There’s a tactical element of getting girls into great products that can support what their body needs. Then, there’s the larger picture of how girls look at themselves, and think about themselves and the confidence they’re developing, which ultimately leads to a more equitable and safe world for everybody. 

JG: When you think of the conversation around periods with athletes in particular, do you see it mentally and physically benefiting them—and what does that conversation look like?

MR: Periods are as normal as any other function of humanity, like breathing. We need to de-stigmatize talking about periods and de-stigmatize talking about products. 

Whenever I have to change my tampon on a plane, I love holding my tampon up. Like, yes, this woman has her period and she is changing whatever product she has. But I think it’s really important for women and girls to understand that there's an array of products out there for a multitude of different periods. 

Sometimes it's lighter, sometimes it's more, sometimes you just want a different product. There's things that can support you in everyday life or in sporting life—and sometimes those are different. 

The educational piece is about getting into the zeitgeist; using the word period and talking aloud about the things we talk about in hushed tones.

JG: You've been outspoken about this for a little while. Have you seen a shift taking place? Does it feel different today than it did 10 years ago, 20 years ago?

I never feel like we've come far enough in almost anything, but I think we have made progress for sure. Especially in sporting culture, even just having an array of different products available from the trainer—whether it's different size tampons, different sanitary pads, and having products like Knix and other brands.

I think it's happening a lot, probably a lot more in certain areas of the world. Certainly in the U.S. we've done a pretty good job of having those conversations and just educating people, but we need more conversation around periods, especially with younger girls all over the world.

JG: You’ve shared that your team has experimented with cycle tracking and syncing. Has that been part of the training regimen for a while or was that a newer conversation? 

MR: I would say we started cycle tracking two, three years before the 2019 World Cup. It was a two-part research project, using the athletes as the subject and gathering data. What are your symptoms? When do they start? Is your period regular? 

Part of it was tracking for the World Cup. You're going to have your period, it's a month-long tournament. Hopefully you time it so it’s  in the middle, and not the front and the back end. I’ve definitely had that—I’m like, god damnit, I’m getting this twice in one tournament. 

It’s about having as much information available to ultimately perform at the very highest level, which is what we're talking about with elite athletes. But even from a medical perspective, being part of the study was like, okay, yeah, this is how I feel on this day. 

Particularly if you have a harder period or more severe cramping. I've had teammates who have had endometriosis or have had cysts. It’s for all of us to better understand the possibilities and realities around our periods. 

JG: Do you have any advice for young athletes who might feel embarrassed or hesitant about discussing their periods? I always think about who's skipping out on that practice or that game. Do you have any advice or words for your younger self?

MR: Part of me is like, come up with a snappy comment to the boys—but that's obviously not how it works when they're young. I think it’s about encouraging girls to talk to each other about it. This is something we often don't even talk to each other about.

It's like you want to either hide the pain or you don't know what to do about it. I think a lot of people are just like, oh, this is just how my period is, and it's like, no, that's a medical condition you can get treatment for. 

Periods are so natural and a beautiful part of being a human being. It's like making fun of someone for needing oxygen or water. It's something we all go through and that we all ultimately benefit from in keeping the species going.

JG: How has your approach to menstrual health evolved throughout your career? 

MR: Probably around 30, I became way more focused on my diet and recovery and all the marginal gains you can make as an athlete to be at your best physically. And certainly later in my career, I gained a better understanding of why I’m feeling the way I'm feeling in certain periods of my hormonal cycle. 

I'm going to be a little bit more tired here. My muscles are going to feel a little bit more like this. Planning for when my period is actually going to be here, what my training looks like and making sure I'm prepared.

JG: You touched on this for a moment, but your advocacy extends beyond sports to include LGBTQ+ rights and racial justice. How do you see the intersection of these causes and menstrual health awareness?

The more intersectional you are, the more inequality you confront and face in your life. Is it a young trans kid that’s dealing with periods and what does that mean? I always feel like marginalized groups are intertwined in the deepest ways. It's really hard to parse out the different parts of identity for yourself. 

To look at it in that framework is really smart. I think it gives us a better understanding of where to meet people and how to better tailor the information and education around periods.

JG: What role do you think brands can play in promoting inclusive and supportive environments for athletes of all genders in sports and for promoting gender equality? Do you have expectations of brands?

MR: I always have expectations of brands. I really do believe that everybody—in whatever way that they can—should participate in making the world a better place in a way that's authentic to them. 

Brands can have a point of view and have an ethos that's still authentic to what they do. There's a really cool opportunity with Sport Your Period to take an amazing product—one that athletes are going to use—and use the power of sport to marry product with an important cause.

JG: Tennis athlete, Genie Bouchard, talked about competing on her period two weeks ago, and it blew people's minds. Why do you think people just don't consider this—why is it blowing their minds?

MR: I don't think men have had to think about it—it's something they haven't wanted to understand. There's been a lot of shame around it, and I think women are made to feel embarrassed by it. 

I think in a broad sense, men have been in control of the larger narratives—whether that's brands, ad campaigns, broadcasting or in sports in general—and they don't deal with it. They don't have to deal with it. 

But for us, look in any woman's sports bag, you'll find a tampon.

JG: What initiatives or changes would you like to see in sports to further normalize—or at least acknowledge—that periods exist?

MR: Showing athletes competing at the very highest level, while also showing this other reality they're going through, is really important. In schools, there should be more education about periods for boys and for girls. 

That can work to de-stigmatize menstruation at a younger age. You can have a better understanding so you don't sensationalize it. Programming and policy around periods in education would be huge. 

Looking at the statistics of girls dropping out of sports, we can start to identify some of those points and have better structure to help them—whether it's them feeling embarrassed, their body's changing, or not having the right products to participate in sport during their menstrual cycles.

JG: What impact do you hope the Sport Your Period campaign has? What would make you high five or do a fist bump?

MR: Periods are an ever present reality that can be talked about. Athletes being able to talk about it or interact with it in a way that they don't have to hide would be a huge win. Getting periods more into the general conversation.

JG: Have you seen people talk about their periods at press conferences before? 

MR: I don't think so. 

JG: It would be cool if it happened.

MR: Yeah, very cool. 

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Indigenous-led period equity organization, Moon Time Connections (MTC), is all about accommodating the range of period experiences, ceremony, and essentials that are so often overlooked in Northern Indigenous Communities.

From pads to period underwear, pain relief, and educational programming, their work aims to decolonize the menstrual equity space by centering Indigenous ways of knowing—including cultural practices and perspectives surrounding periods. 

Rather than treating products as a one-in-all solution to the scarcity of menstrual care facing Community, they ask questions, conduct research, provide educational resources, and look to Indigenous leaders for Community-based solutions. 

A recipient of the Knix Fund’s first round of grants, to date, Moon Time Connections has facilitated the distribution of millions of period products across schools, organizations, shelters, and community centers in remote areas from coast to coast to coast.

Most recently, the organization has partnered with Food Banks Canada to foster greater access to menstrual education and products among those in northern and remote Communities. 

Ahead, I chat with the Ontario Chapter Lead and Co-education Director, Veronica Brown, about the organization’s exciting new project, why pain relief is central to menstrual equity, and how periods can foster moments of cultural connection. 

Congrats on your recent pilot project and funding initiative—tell me about some of the work you’re currently doing. 

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Women and Gender Equality Canada (WAGE) has been consulting with us and many other period equity organizations for the last couple of years. From that consultation they came up with a menstrual equity pilot. Food Banks Canada was awarded funding as the national organization to run the pilot which has two prongs to it. 

The first prong is the distribution of menstrual products and the second prong is education. We applied to Food Banks Canada for funding for our education program but as with any programming or funding, we were frequently checking in and asking “what's going on in the north? What does distribution look like in the north? We have a lot of really deep rooted relationships with northern Communities. What can we do to support this?” 

MTC originally received funding under the education prong to upscale our educational programming. But because of our strong connection with Community and experience shipping to remote and northern areas of the country, Food Banks Canada applied for supplemental funding to establish Moon Time Connections as a pilot location servicing the North. 

WAGE Canada provided $2.4 million of additional funding to purchase period products for Moon Time Connections to distribute across the country to the 160 Northern partners we currently support. 

We are able to offer not only disposable pads and tampons, but also reusable products like period underwear and cloth pads. We strive to offer the full spectrum of products because part of period equity is the dignity of choice. 

We’re so excited to be able to offer period underwear as it’s an amazing reusable product option that also supports oral traditions around Moon Time and is often cost prohibitive. Since we’ve been able to offer period underwear, it’s become our second most requested item.  

Your organization focuses on many of the material barriers facing Northern Indigenous Communities, but you also focus a lot on education. What role does education play in menstrual equity?

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Education is integral to period equity. It’s crucial for all menstruators to understand their bodies, understand menstruation, what’s typical, and when to seek medical help. It’s also crucial for non-menstruators; education is key to removing the stigma around periods. 

When we received funding to develop our training program, the first thing we did was send a poll to the Communities we work with—because we work with Community and we work for Community. We weren't going to build an education program from what we thought people needed. We really wanted to make sure the topics we're covering are coming from the voice of Community. 

The number one thing that came back around education was pain management, which was really surprising to us. That also links to the findings of our research paper, which holds that 65% of Northern Indigenous respondents don't have access to pain relief medication. 

So, we focused on partnering with different organizations, like the Endometriosis Network of Canada and partnered with Happy Pelvis. Last week I spoke at an event at a book release for a doctor that focuses on PCOS. We're going to meet in the next month to add PCOS into our presentations. 

We work to provide awareness around why we have our Moon Time and what to expect when we get our first Moon Time. We talk about period tracker apps, as well. We also talk about how to support youth who have disabilities and are getting their period. We talk about how to support trans, Two-Spirit, and non-binary menstruators.

We are very much Indigenizing menstrual education. Our program provides a base knowledge, but we talk about traditional medicine practices that the facilitators can then implement into the training. If you, say, have an Anishinaabe facilitator, they can take the teachings from their specific Nation and embed that into the presentations. 

If they have smudging or if they have certain ceremonies around their Moon Time, then there's space for them to implement that knowledge. We wanted to create a base foundation that is still Indigenized, but gives space for Nation-specific resources to be implemented.

We are now working with different trusted Elders, Knowledge Keepers, and Medicine People from all of the different Nations to create videos for each of their own Nations. 

So, if somebody is not able to have an Elder or Knowledge Keeper come and talk about the ceremonies or the practices or the traditional medicine that are from their specific Nation, we can then share a video to help bridge the gap of traditional knowledge or the awareness of traditional knowledge that has been created by colonization. 

When we look at colonization, there's a big gap around traditional knowledge. A lot of that went underground, a lot of it was really hidden. What we're trying to do is revitalize that as much as we can.

We're also translating our lessons into different traditional languages. So really bringing back the traditional knowledge in terms of language as well. 

As you mentioned, research points to major barriers in accessing period pain relief in Northern Indigenous Communities. Do you think that's a vital part of moving towards menstrual equity?

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That's a really deep question. Overall, access to pain relief should be considered just as much a part of menstrual equity as accessing products; caring for one’s menstrual health is multifaceted. 

From a Western perspective, we view our health through a different lens. We need a diagnosis and we need to know what disease you have, how can we treat it? Is there a medication that we can give you to support you? Is there a surgery that you can have to help rid that? 

I was just sitting with a very beautiful spirit. She is Ojibwe and Oneida, and she's taught me a lot about pain in women's bodies and how we hold on to a lot of trauma and pain in our lives because we are the caregivers of our Community.

Oftentimes, from Indigenous teachings and specifically teachings from her, when we hold onto this trauma and we hold onto this pain, it develops in different ways in our body. 

When she was young, she went through a lot of trauma and she was at home in bed with a lot of debilitating menstrual pain. She always said, I'm happy for my Moon Time pain because I didn't have to go into the educational institution that abused me.  

After she went through her healing and worked with different Medicine People—she let go of that trauma and pain—her cramps stopped. There's definitely a physical aspect to our pain, but there's also a psychological aspect to our pain. 

We can look at traditional medicines and healing to help with that, and pair that with endometriosis and PCOS diagnosis. It's been really interesting sitting with different Matriarchs and getting non-Western perspectives around our bodies, and around healing and pain. 

When we talk about the work that we do, it's deep. We are not doctors, so we can't give diagnoses. We can't give medication. That's not something that we offer. But we do offer hot water bottles and heating pads because we know that those are not really available in the North. 

When those are requested, we send them up and we use our voice as much as we can to advocate for issues around women's health, and around Two-Spirit and trans health—and what that looks like in terms of lack of research. 

When we talk about access to menstrual products, we almost always talk about access to pain relief as well, because that's a big thing that came out of our report. Those two things together define menstrual equity. 

It's not just products, it's not just education. It's being able to take care of yourself during menstruation. Part of that is being able to manage pain.

Nearly half of Indigenous respondents in remote Communities report feeling connected to themselves and other women during their Moon Time. Can you tell me more about these feelings of connectedness?

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We wanted to really focus—not just on what don't you have—but what does Moon Time really mean to you? How do you feel around it? How does it connect you to your auntie, your grandmother, your mother, and to the other women and menstruators in your life?

In our facilitator training at the very beginning, we always ask everyone: what is one word to describe your Moon Time? And it's usually painful, uncomfortable, and messy.

Every once in a while we get a ‘sacred’ and ‘connecting.’ Then we go through our training and we ask it again at the very end—what's one word to describe your Moon Time? 

It’s the polar opposite from day one. It's like ‘beautiful,’ ‘connected,’ ‘sacred,’ ‘honoring,’ and ‘life giving.’ Through our training, we also wanted to say, let's sit and have a reflection here about what this looks like and how this feels for you.

Because when we have conversations and we have different perspectives from different Matriarchs, we hear that people are honoring their bodies and their Moon Times and they do find it sacred.

We want to make sure that we are giving space for that reflection. The more we can have that conversation, the more we can see that perspective grow around connection. 

When we talk about oral traditions and that connection with Grandmother Moon—not every nation has that connection or that oral tradition—but we wanted to at least give that opportunity for reflection. How does your Moon Time bring you back to your culture? 

A lot of people don't put those two things together, so how can we feel connected with ourselves, but also feel connected with culture and Community during our Moon Time.

The saying ‘It takes a village’ was reflected all around me. From babysitting to cooking, getting to and from school, and more, so many people around me pitched in to guide me on the right path. The same can be said of Queer spaces. 

Often, Queer people—especially those dependent on their parents—find themselves feeling isolated from others like them. Where do they learn how to be themselves? Where do they go to learn how to be safe with their partners? Where do they go to learn about those who have come before them? 

This is where the importance of Queer spaces and communities comes in. Queer community is about fostering connections, creating safe spaces, and supporting each other. 

Whether you're looking to give back, find a sense of belonging, or create new opportunities for others, there are many ways to build and nurture community. 

Early Lessons in Community-Building

In high school, I had my very first taste of what it meant to cultivate Queer community. 

It all started when I created the first Gay-Straight Alliance in our very catholic school district. Imagine me, in the middle of the school cafeteria with a Pride flag and sign-up sheet, inviting students to come and support this club. I was terrified. 

What would the backlash be like? Would anyone actually show up? What if I’m way over my head? These are some of the thoughts that echoed in my mind. At the time, I was the only openly out person in my grade—maybe even the whole school.

But something in me knew, out of all the students, there was no way I was alone. I just needed to be that representation for others to see. 

What came out of it changed my life. We created an alliance of over 30 students, backed by teachers and our vice principal. 

We got swag, had weekly meetings, and hosted a huge summer party the final month of school. I remember feeling such intense emotions of happiness and care for my group. 

Giving Back Through Queer Initiatives

This first experience led me to join the executive team of Brock University’s Pride club, which led me to be awarded a scholarship for creating a positive impact. Today, I host my own Queer spaces and foster community in-person and online. 

But if you’re new to all this: how does one go about cultivating Queer community?

Whether you’re a leader in your local community or support by attending events, there’s a role for everyone to play. 

One of the most impactful ways to cultivate community is by giving back; this is a significant supporting role if you don’t want to organize everything yourself. Volunteering your time and energy to support Queer initiatives can make a significant difference. 

You could start off by offering your time to local 2SLGBTQ+ centers, shelters, or support groups. These organizations often need help with events, outreach, and daily operations. 

This kind of support allows Queer spaces and communities to continue to thrive, while providing ongoing opportunities for you to meet and collaborate with Queer folks. 

Additionally, consider becoming a mentor for 2SLGBTQ+ youth. Sharing your experiences and providing guidance can help young people navigate their own journeys with confidence and support.

There’s an Online Community for Everyone

In today’s digital age, online communities play a crucial role in connecting Queer individuals across the globe. Many can’t attend events in person for safety reasons, so they turn to places like TikTok, YouTube, X, and Instagram. 

Many also utilize apps like Lex, HER, and others designed specifically for the 2SLGBTQ+ community. These apps can help you find local events, meet new people, and engage in meaningful conversations. Discord, too, can be a great platform for building a closed-off server for your community and allies. 

You can host gaming nights, movie nights, and more on these online platforms. Just remember that security and safety are crucial in online spaces, especially with how widespread they can get. 

I can personally thank TikTok for helping me find my community; I was able to connect with so many cool people, see events I wouldn’t have seen otherwise, and get history lessons about my community. 

Good Things Take Time to Grow

Organizing a Queer space and cultivating a community is a massive responsibility, and we might not always get the results we want to see right off the bat. 

If your first couple of events are just you and another person, consider it a win: there’s now one less lonely Queer person out there because of you. 

My goal is always one. Whether that's one new person you meet, one person you engaged with, or one more person you inspired. 

As you grow, the numbers will come. Don’t be discouraged if your first few events aren’t a huge hit. Forging connections takes time—but it’s so worth it. 

Creating the Queer Spaces You Wish Existed

Lastly, be the change you want to see. 

If you find a gap in your local Queer community, don’t hesitate to create the space you wish existed. Initiating your own events and groups can be incredibly fulfilling. 

I saw that there was a need for more Queer art spaces, so I launched my Queer pottery nights. I pay out of pocket for these so as to not make it cost prohibitive for my attendees.

Being able to offload the barrier of funds from Queer youth means creating greater access and opportunity, without the deterrent of choosing between rent and having fun.  

If you’re looking for low-cost ways to get together with folks in your community, here are some ideas.

Start a book club focusing on Queer literature. It’s a great way to meet regularly, engage in thoughtful discussions, and support Queer authors. You can even organize casual meetups at local coffee shops. 

These informal gatherings provide a relaxed environment for people to connect, co-work, and be in space with other Queer people. 

My favorite idea—and something I’ve been working on—is hosting workshops on various skills or interests, from cooking classes to art sessions. These events bring people together and foster a sense of community.

By taking these steps, you can contribute to the growth and strength of the Queer community. No matter how small, every effort helps create a more inclusive, supportive, and vibrant world for everyone.

You hit up your local bar, and—to your luck—the CUTEST girl is sitting across from you, giving you shy glances here and there. 

You’re in your single era and think it's time to spice things up. So, what do you do?

A: Scoot closer and ask if you can get her a drink. 

B: Compliment her outfit.

C: Keep playing this game of eye tag until you eventually leave the bar feeling defeated. In short: you’re too scared to flirt.

For a lot of Queer people, option C is the reluctant choice. I’ve heard too many stories of people missing out on their chance to flirt and meet someone new—mainly due to fears of rejection or coming off as predatory, and internal confidence struggles. 

Flirting can feel intimidating because, well, being vulnerable is hard. 

Nobody likes to feel rejected. But those are also simply the risks that come with the territory. What’s important is not to project your self-worth into what should be a fun and lighthearted introduction. 

I remember searching the keywords “how to flirt with girls” on YouTube as an 8th grader. I’m sure you can imagine what the results were like in 2013. Videos of guys giving tips to other guys didn’t quite resonate with me as I tried to smooth-talk my first girlfriend. 

So, how did I go from no-game to playgirl extraordinaire? Ahead, I explore some of the dos and don’ts that guide my flirting philosophy as a Queer person. 

DO: Start With a Genuine Compliment

For starters, let’s get familiar with some indicators that the person you’re looking to flirt with might be Queer. 

Historically, carabiners, lavender tattoos, rainbow-themed jewelry, and certain piercings (like a septum piercing) can be subtle indicators within the community. Recognizing and commenting on these elements of someone’s look can be an excellent way to signal mutual interest and understanding. 

You can never go wrong with a sincere compliment. Don’t be shy to say you think they have a beautiful smile, or are wearing a fantastic outfit. Specific details will help make your compliments feel personal (instead of generic). 

This small shift is how you elevate “you’re so pretty” into a more direct compliment. Hearing things like, “I love your outfit” not only warms me up for a conversation, but can lead to something more. 

As a Lesbian, there comes the struggle of “is this girl flirting with me, or is she just being nice?” because, let’s face it, lots of girls are friendly—and it’s pretty normal for women to offer each other compliments. 

So, how do you filter out the kind-heartedness of strangers from the flirtatious advances of someone wanting to rearrange more than just your furniture? 

DO: Engage Positively

If your potential crush responds well to your compliment, ask them questions about themselves. 

It doesn’t have to be complicated. For example, you could ask: what brings you out here tonight? What’s your favorite [interest]? Have you read anything interesting lately? Tailor the question to fit the circumstance.

Ask them for a menu recommendation if you're at a cafe. If you’re at a library, ask about the book they’re reading. 

Do: Find Your Unique Approach

You might naturally be outgoing and direct, while some prefer a more subtle, hinting approach. Neither one is ‘better’ than the other. 

The best way to make an authentic connection is by being true to yourself. If you’re an extrovert, you know your eye is on the prize. If you’re more reserved or shy, try something like writing a note. 

Nothing’s cuter than when a waiter says, “actually, the person over there covered your tab.” It shows you’re interested and can avoid any stumbling blocks that come with hyping yourself up. 

DON’T: Open With a Hypersexual One-Liner

The internet may have rotted your brain into thinking hypersexual openers are the way to go—but they often aren’t appreciated in real-world applications. 

Unless the other person explicitly states they enjoy that kind of attention, it’s not recommended. It’s all about time, place, and fostering mutual respect. 

If you’re at that kind of event, go ahead! But if you’re at the local bookstore, maybe talk about undressing the sleeves off a new read instead of your potential date.

DON’T: Disengage Too Early

People often build up the initial opener so much that when it lands, they aren’t prepared to continue the conversation and walk away with the interaction having gone nowhere. 

To prevent an awkward gap, keep different scenarios in mind to help make these interactions smoother. They say practice makes perfect, but I think it’s more like preparation makes perfect. 

DON’T: Play a Persona

It’s natural to want to paint yourself in an ideal light, but people can usually tell when you’re putting on a character. It can come across as inauthentic or like you’re trying too hard. 

All in all, flirting is an art, a skill, and, like any other skill, requires preparation, practice, and execution. It’s also a process that involves both failure and success. 

It’s all about finding your groove, balancing sharing things about yourself and learning about others, and, most importantly, growing more confident with each passing interaction. 

Now get out there, flirt with your crush, and make it a Hot-Queer-Summer!

The occasion? Oh, just the launch of Club Knix and our most expansive, inclusive, and versatile Swim collection to date. It’s a swimwear collection that’s designed for freedom of movement and seamless support—so, what better way to capture it in action than among our community at a tropical locale?

What ensued were moments of connection and community beyond our wildest expectations. From epic struts down the Club Knix runway to golden hour portrait sessions and full moon magic, lifelong friendships were forged and sun soaked memories were made. 

A year in the making, our inaugural Club Knix trip involved a fun-filled itinerary of cultural workshops, community-building activities, and confidence-inducing moments. In short, it was pure joy—and largely thanks to brand partners like Elf Cosmetics, Arrae, Freedom Moses, Hillberg & Berk, Vacation, Athletic Greens, Bushbalm, WakeWater, and SmartSweets that we were able to thoroughly spoil our community members like the queens they are. 

Ahead, we caught up with five Knix ambassadors who joined us in Cabo for Club Knix—and they did not spare any details. 

Meet: Linda Douglas

How did you react when you found out you were invited to join the Club Knix trip?

I'm taken back to 2020 when I was initially chosen as a finalist to shoot Knix swim. Then the world shut down and we ended up shooting in our backyards! To see myself and the brand evolve and grow throughout the years—it was a true honor to see the mission statement of inclusivity and confidence make such an impact.

How would you describe the atmosphere of the trip?

Lively, purposeful, open to all needs. Something I wasn't prepared for was how healing it would feel to be at a location where I never worried about the male gaze. Holding space to relax, rejuvenate, and celebrate without the constant fear of being gawked, judged, or over sexualized. 

It really made me question, "maybe I’m not insecure about my body, maybe it's just how I assume strangers perceive me that leads me to insecurity." I'll cherish that feeling of a safe space forever. 

What are some standout moments from Cabo?

My WingWoman, Jelly—plot twist: she's my roommate back in LA, too—and I had lighthearted and eye opening conversations about how much of our body image ideas were actually passed down like a family heirloom. 

When we took a step back, we were able to see that we can change constant self-limiting beliefs. I also had some of the best sleep—it's amazing how well your body can feel once all your needs are met. The cacao and sound bath ceremony was a standout, too. These soft morning practices we had at Club Knix are things I intend to integrate into my routine back home.

Do you feel like the experience is one you’ll carry with you in your everyday life?

Oh, absolutely. This created lasting change on how I define community, confidence, and how seriously I take my friendships. The warmth and unwavering support from people at Club Knix was something you can't make up. This was highly curated and throughout—and the work to hold a space like this doesn't go unnoticed. 

What’s your favorite swimsuit style from the new Swim collection?

The Short Sleeve Zip One Piece Swimsuit! It's really giving fashion week meets James Bond-girl vibe. Also, anything in the Mango limited edition colorway. My roommate and I already picked up matching skorts too!

Meet: Janniel Bayard

Occupation 💻 Operations Review Specialist
City 🌇 Midway, Florida

How did you react when you found out you were invited to join the Club Knix trip?

I was filled with so much excitement and gratitude. I was actually at work when I received the email. I screamed so loud—thankfully my boss didn’t write me up. It all felt like a dream! It was a mix between disbelief and exhilaration to be given the chance to not only experience such a beautiful destination, but to represent a brand I truly love.

How would you describe the atmosphere of the trip?

The atmosphere and vibe of the trip overall were absolutely electric! There was an undeniable sense of excitement amongst everyone involved. Whether we were exploring the beach, creating content, indulging in the delicious cuisine, engaging in all of the fun activities, such as yoga and pilates, there was a constant buzz of energy and enthusiasm. 

What are some standout moments from Cabo?

Waking up early to participate in the yoga session and hearing the sound of the beach was incredibly rejuvenating. It definitely set the tone for the day and allowed us to connect with ourselves and nature in a serene setting.

Being around so many women who were willing to be vulnerable and open with their emotions really allowed me to fully release all I've balled up inside. It really showed me how much I’ve been a giver—I’m always looking out for everyone except myself. It felt so good to fully release, take a deep breath and lay all the weight aside. 

Do you feel like the experience is one you’ll carry with you in your everyday life?

The sense of community and connection during this trip has instilled in me a greater appreciation for collaboration and support. 

It has also reminded me of the power of coming together with like-minded individuals to achieve common goals and uplift one another. The confidence I’ve gained from stepping out of my comfort zone, trying new things, and embracing new experiences has been so transformative. 

What’s your favorite swimsuit style from the new Swim collection?

My answer is all of them! Just kidding—my absolute fave from the collection would be the One Shoulder One Piece Swimsuit in the Feline print.

Meet: Saige Taylor 

Occupation 💻 Social Media Manager & Content Creator 
City 🌇 Winnipeg, Manitoba

How did you react when you found out you were invited to join the Club Knix trip?

I’ve loved following Knix Swim trips [online] every year, so I was absolutely ecstatic when I saw they had expanded the trip and I had an opportunity to join! (Even though I never in a million years I would *actually* get to go).

How would you describe the atmosphere of the trip?

Honestly the vibes were so high from the very beginning ‘til the very end. There were many moments I had to take a breath, look around and l remember to be present because the atmosphere was just incredible. 

Have you ever been in a girls bathroom at a bar or club? It was like that energy but x 100.

What are some standout moments from Cabo?

As beautiful as the view, and resort, and the atmosphere was, my favorite moments that I’ll cherish forever were the conversations I had and the connections I made. 

It sounds cheesy, I know, but truly getting to know so many different women from all walks of life, age, size, with different perspectives, experiences and stories, it felt like one big sleepover I never wanted to end. 

Do you feel like the experience is one you’ll carry with you in your everyday life?

This experience is something I’ll carry with me forever without a doubt. I honestly felt some imposter syndrome being there at first, but after talking with Joanna and the other women I truly believed it when they said every single person there was *meant* to be there—I now feel that and carry that with me. 

What’s your favorite swimsuit style from the new swim collection?

If you asked me last week I would have said the Deep V Bikini Top and Sculpt High Rise Bottom because I feel like a million bucks in that set in Seashell, but I have been loving playing around with the Triangle Bikini Top and String Bikini Bottom. I feel like the opportunity to customize it to fit the vibe of the day is so fun! 

Meet: Manny Martins-Karman

Occupation 💻 Semi-retired Graphic Designer & Artist
City 🌇 Winnipeg, Manitoba

How did you react when you found out you were invited to join the Club Knix trip?

I was so excited at the opportunity to meet so many of my fellow ambassadors in person. I love how social media connects us all, but when we can hug each other and see beautiful smiling faces in person… It's so special.

How would you describe the atmosphere of the trip?

Inclusive, warm, inspiring—like a girl’s sleepover.

What are some standout moments from Cabo?

I originally was going to attend solo (my sister couldn’t come), but at the last minute, I got a DM from an acquaintance who was congratulating me on another big win. I mentioned that wasn’t all I won this month and couldn’t wait to share (Club Knix). 

She immediately said, is it the trip with Knix? She is a customer and had also applied. Well, the rest is history: I asked her to join me as my newfound WingWoman. Sometimes, the universe is aligned and perfectly in sync with your intentions. 

Do you feel like the experience is one you’ll carry with you in your everyday life?

It’s the community, I know I can lean on them and reach out anytime I need my cup filled up again. 

What’s your favorite swimsuit style from the new swim collection?

The Deep V Bikini Top and Sculpt High Rise Swim Bottom in Lush Green. Perfect fit and the color options are divine.

Meet: Toni Lumpkin

Occupation 💻 Sales, Designer, & Content Creator 
City 🌇 Anaheim, California

How did you react when you found out you were invited to join the Club Knix trip?

My initial thought was it would be an absolute dream to go to Cabo with one of my favorite brands. I felt excited about the possibility of going and the opportunity to be a part of Club Knix!

How would you describe the atmosphere of the trip?

Warm, inviting, LOVING, and HIGH ENERGY! It was an atmosphere like no other. Everyone there was truly so sweet and amazing—it felt like the epitome of GIRL POWER! It was a safe space to cry, laugh, hold deep and meaningful conversations all while having the utmost fun. 

What are some standout moments from Cabo?

From the moment we landed and were greeted with the Club Knix sign, to arriving at the beautiful resort hotel, there were hugs and positive energy right away. 

Standout moments for me were meeting and being around the girls and the Knix team, the deep conversations and human connection. I felt like I knew many of the girls for such a long time because we connected on a deeper level. It was like nothing I have ever experienced—weeks later and I still find myself taking it in and being so grateful!

Do you feel like the experience is one you’ll carry with you in your everyday life?

ABSOLUTELY! Knix does such a great job in naturally creating a community that cannot be broken. There’s a sense of sisterhood and womanhood wrapped all into one. We can embrace ourselves, as well as hype each other up and be there for one another. 

We could boldly come into this safe space and be unapologetically ourselves! I left with so much more confidence than ever before and owning motherhood, my purpose, and myself—flaws and all!

What’s your favorite swimsuit style from the new swim collection?

My favorite swimsuit is the Cinch Shaper One Piece Swimsuit with the added Rosette.

My mother, the president of the Ontario Black History Society and a driving force behind the establishment of Black History Month in Canada, has been a constant source of inspiration and wisdom. In this article, I reflect on seven invaluable lessons from her. 

Lesson One: Embrace Your Roots

From a young age, my mother instilled in me the importance of embracing my heritage and cultural identity. She taught me that our history is a source of strength and resilience, and that by honoring our roots, we empower ourselves and future generations. 

One really impactful piece of our history that my mom shared with me, is when she discovered that her father’s family had been in Canada since 1783. 

This is part of her story, our story, our family's story, and because my moms generation was never taught Black History in school, this sparked her advocacy work to ensure Black History was more central for all of us.

Lesson Two: Persistence Pays Off

Watching my mother navigate the challenges of advocating for Black history recognition in Canada, I learned the power of persistence. She was a volunteer who became the President of the OBHS (for 22 years). 

There she was able to build on the work of the founders of the Ontario Black History Society, and getting Black History Month recognized after many years. More recently, in 2022 she was able to get Emancipation Day recognized after 15 years of advocacy.  

I can’t imagine the amount of challenges she faced. In that, she never wavered in her commitment to the cause, reminding me that perseverance is key to achieving success in the face of adversity. She was honoured for her work and received the Order of Ontario. 

Lesson Three: Celebrate Black Excellence

Through her enduring advocacy work, my mother taught me the importance of celebrating Black excellence in all its forms. From literature to art to science, she showed me that Black achievement knows no bounds and deserves to be recognized and celebrated. 

A moment we often reflect on is that my mom was the only non-elected person on the platform to address the nation on the occasion of the first national celebration of February as Black History Month in 1996—an empowering moment that, at age 10, I was able to witness with so much pride. 

Lesson Four: Find Joy in the Journey

Despite the obstacles she faced, my mother always found joy in her work and her community. In her words: “Joy is active resistance, and knowing who you are while freely being able to share that.”

She taught me that happiness is not a destination, but rather a mindset, and that by finding joy in the journey, we can navigate life's ups and downs with grace and resilience.

Lesson Five: Lift Others as You Climb

One of the most valuable lessons my mother taught me is the importance of lifting others as you climb. She led by example, using her platform to uplift and empower those around her, and instilling in me a sense of responsibility to do the same. 

This applies to my work around allyship and teaching others how to support marginalized communities. I have always chosen impact over numbers, and that lesson is truly rooted in what I saw my mother accomplish growing up.

Lesson Six: Knowledge Is Power

As the president of an organization dedicated to the study, preservation, and promotion of Black history and heritage, my mother was a fierce advocate for education and knowledge-sharing. It’s actually one of the reasons she kept her maiden name; to ensure her children weren’t negatively impacted by her advocacy. 

She taught me that knowledge is power, and that by arming ourselves with the truth, we can effect positive change in our communities and beyond. As well as being a voice for others, inspiring much of the EDI (Equity, Diversity, Inclusion) work I do today. 

Lesson Seven: Lead with Love

Above all, my mother taught me to lead with love in everything I do. This is my mantra in life, business, and everything in between. 

Whether it's fighting for social justice or simply navigating everyday life, she showed me that love is the most powerful force for change and that by leading with empathy and compassion, we can create a brighter, more inclusive world for all.

And now, I bring to the stage my powerhouse of a mother, Rosemary Sadlier, to ask a few questions surrounding Black joy, excellence, and advocacy. 

Q1: You once said in an article that Black joy is when a person can enjoy, and “be”, and celebrate who they are in their own reality. When do you feel JOY?

“When I can freely be my true self. Without having to over explain myself, or defend my identity or existence. As well as when I can see people around me flourishing, and feel that I also have the opportunity to flourish. That is Black joy.”

Q2: If you could talk to your 5-year-old self, what would you say to her? 

“I would say you are on the right path, trust yourself, treat others as you would want to be treated. Listen to your mom, she has some good ideas.”

Q3: What are you most proud of (besides me, your favorite child, of course)?

“I’m proud of ALL my kids, they are the true reason I began to do this work first. I’m proud of my publications. I’m proud of the numerous commemorations I have been able to support and see come to fruition.  

“Most of all I am proud of myself, for moving  through some of the challenges that this particular path came with. Lastly, of course I am so proud of my middle kid, Raia, and it's been beautiful to see her follow in some of my footsteps. I hope I can inspire her as much as she has inspired me.”

She’s an entrepreneur, a mom, a fierce advocate of women’s health and sexual violence prevention, a film producer, and, of course, a Y2K style icon. 

As of late, she’s also been crowned Knix Global Brand Ambassador—and star of the Knix for Life campaign, which aims to tell the true story of every body. That is, the story of bodies that are ever-evolving, in a constant process of change that should be celebrated at every juncture.

“Everything I’ve done, everything I’ve been outspoken about, this body has done it all with me. Every body has a story,” voices Gabrielle Union in the unrestrained campaign video. 

When I hop on a Zoom call with her on a cloudy afternoon in early March, she’s as uninhibited (and, may we say, unapologetic) as she seems onscreen. There’s no topic of discussion too taboo, no issue too big to speak to with a sense of unvarnished sincerity. 

From first-period blunders to flipping the middle finger to ageist expectations, read ahead for insights into our candid conversation with the multi-hyphenate actress.

She Gets Real About Periods

Stars, they’re just like us: they, too, have been failed by lack of education surrounding female anatomy. 

When I ask Gabrielle about a time when she had to learn to embrace bodily changes, she immediately flashes back to the early days of puberty and periods. “I remember the horror of when my period would come, that I was going to be exposed as having a period because of these accidents at school,” she tells me. 

She recalls, in particular, the pang of getting her period while swimming with friends as a young teen. Just like that, she felt landlocked—until a friend encouraged her to use a tampon for the first time. 

After struggling with its application, her friend broke it to her: she’d been targeting the wrong hole with the tampon, and with pads prior to that. The mystery of her dreaded accidents had been solved, just like that, with access to the right information about her own body. 

Aside from this being a story of genuine friendship (we could all use a friend like that), it’s also a story of knowledge as empowerment. Ever since, Gabrielle says she’s prided herself on being the friend that’s like, “Girl, let me tell you what’s really going on.” 

“I was finally empowered with information so I knew how to put a pad or tampon in,” she says. “That gave me the confidence at that stage of life because I didn’t know—no one gave me the particulars that would help me stop having accidents.” 

It’s a sense of confidence she’s carried with her since, including her diagnosis with adenomyosis, a painful condition—similar to endometriosis—caused by tissue growth on the muscular wall of the uterus. “I can take control of this, first and foremost with information” she remembers thinking to herself. “I’m not crazy and I’m not imagining these things.”

When You Gain Knowledge, You Lose Shame

If there’s a theme that emerges throughout our chat, it’s that knowledge is empowering.  

For Gabrielle, breaking free from misinformation and learning more about our bodies isn’t just a means of self-empowerment, but an important form of collective empowerment. 

“Knowledge is power, and you can take control of your life with information in community and the sharing of resources and solutions,” she says—the strong will she’s known for piercing through. Even further, she relays that withholding information—especially knowledge of our bodies—is a form of oppression. 

When we tap into knowledge, we also often tap into community. Experiences we once thought made us defective, we realize, are being experienced by so many others. In seeking out information and self-discovery, don’t be surprised to find a well of support waiting on the other side. 

“We’re waiting. We’ve got a welcome basket,” says Gabrielle.

Just as her teenage friend exemplified earlier, when you tap into knowledge, you become a resource to your community. Something that seems as simple as sharing information on how to insert a tampon can have striking ripple effects. 

“I think it’s hard to be impactful under the shroud of shame, secrecy, embarrassment,” she shares. “The more we learn about ourselves and the more we realize there’s other people experiencing similar things, the [more we] can plug into community.” 

When it comes to understanding your body, its functions and many phases of life, no one should be relegated to the shadows. Knowledge takes out the guesswork—and community offers a much-needed dose of support. “We’re here,” says Gabrielle. “You don’t have to be alone and you don’t have to guess.”

Thongs Are Always Age-Appropriate

In case it wasn’t already clear, Gabrielle won’t be adopting the coastal grandma aesthetic anytime soon—but don’t be shocked to find her oceanside flaunting a thong bikini.

As someone who’s long been in the public eye, I ask how she navigates social pressures and expectations surrounding body image. “By blowing up people’s ideas of what’s appropriate for a 51-year-old,” she says, bluntly. “I’m going to wear the thong. Yeah, you’re going to see it.” 

For her, joy and freedom are fruits born from self-assurance—why would she care about the opinion of someone who’s never known the joy and freedom of being true to yourself?

“When I stopped caring about what everyone thought and everyone else’s opinion, the good times started rolling in,” she tells me. “I’m not going to be shut away into a closet to sit in a rocking chair in a sweater set. I’m going to be me, every day.” 

Conforming to the construct of what’s deemed “age appropriate,” in her view, is a disservice to ourselves if it means compromising the bliss of living authentically. What that looks like is up for us to define.

In Gabrielle’s words, it comes from “owning ourselves, our stories, and our bodies.” And when it comes to Knix, “you feel important at every stage and at every age.”

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Shop Gabrielle’s looks, designed for the reality of our bodies and the demands of real life.

Period underwear, in particular, has revolutionized the period game by introducing unrivaled comfort. What once was bulky (we’re looking at you, pads) is now barely there (shout out to our new UltraThin Leakproof Underwear). 

At the same time, advocacy and activism in the realm of period justice and equity have helped lessen stigma around menstruation. According to research by Plan International, there's been a significant shift in attitudes towards menstruation in recent years, with more and more people embracing it as a natural part of life that can be discussed openly. 

In an attempt to fully understand the magnitude of change in the period space, we invited Helen Forbes (whom we affectionately refer to as Grandma Forbes), to chat about shifting attitudes towards menstruation and the period products she wishes were around when she was a teenager. 

We also had the absolute privilege of introducing her to period underwear for the very first time. 

Here's to bridging generations, breaking taboos, and embracing periods with pride. Below, we keep the conversation flowing in our interview with the lovable Grandma Forbes. 

What’s your earliest memory of getting your period?

I was a late bloomer in that department. I was probably about 13-years-old, but I was small for my size at that stage. All my friends had already had their period, so I knew a lot of information from them, but my mother was very good to me too. She was able to explain a lot of things to me.

She told me that, one day I’ll probably just go to the washroom and there will be some blood—and not to worry. Nothing has happened, this is quite a normal sign of womanhood. She told me she would help me in that department when the time came. 

Growing up, what was the perception of periods—was it talked about openly?

As far as periods were concerned, I knew what to expect because I’d been told by my friends already—plus my mother. I wasn’t worried about it, but I did have a lot of cramps when it did happen. And that happened regularly after that. So, I did suffer a lot with it. 

When you were a teenager, what kind of period product options were there? 

When I first started my period, I didn’t even know about those products. My mother used diapers, believe it or not, and cut them. I’d attach them with safety pins to my panties. Then, when it was time to change them, my mother had a bucket of water down by the laundry with bleach in them. 

She would wash them and we would reuse them—and they were pure white every time. It’s funny because I happened to mention to my friend that I was coming here to Knix—and she’s eight years younger than me—she said, oh well we used rags. 

That’s what we referred to them as, but that’s really what it was in some cases too. I didn’t really know about pads until I started working, and they had dispensers in the women’s washroom. I thought, oh what are those?

I remember you could buy an elastic band that went around your waistline, it had a piece of elastic in the front and a piece of metal so you could hook the rags on each end instead of using safety pins. That’s what they started off with. 

It wasn’t until I started working and I saw there were dispensable type products—I thought, hm, I’m going to buy one and see how it works. After that, that’s when I started buying pads. And, of course, now there’s so many options. 

How has your perspective and attitude towards period products evolved over time? How has the way you discuss periods with friends and family evolved?

In first year high school, in health class, we did see a film all about menstruation—but everybody kind of cringed. Everyone was sort of embarrassed to look up at the screen. A few people just had their heads down. 

But a few of us had already been told, so we were lucky that way. But I remember that class very vividly, how it was sort of embarrassing for a lot of the girls.

I’ve learned more in my 70s and 80s from my daughter who teaches health and physical education. My friends and I have thought to ourselves, how did we get through all this without knowing all that stuff?

We didn’t refer to it as a period, most of the time it would be “I got my friend.” You never said menstruation or anything like that. You’d just say, I got my friend so I’m feeling miserable, or something. Things have changed. 

Have you heard of period underwear before?

I hadn’t, until this collaboration with Knix came about. I was surprised, but of course it would be more comfortable to just pull on a pair of panties without worrying about safety pins and the bulkiness and everything else. I think it’s great. 

There’s actually a pair of period underwear sitting right in front of you. What are your first impressions?

Oh, you’re kidding. Well, I have Knix underwear on now, but I guess they have a different liner than this, of course. 

Oh my gosh, that’s amazing. What a relief it would be to wear these. Just wearing the Knix underwear itself, you don’t even know you have them on. These are so light and silky, they feel luxurious—and, of course, the pantyliner is obviously absorbent. 

I would wear them in a heartbeat. I don’t need them anymore, but I guess I could use them for when you’re laughing and smiling and unexpectedly can’t hold your bladder. 

There you go, they’re the answer to everything for us women.

Do you think having period underwear growing up would have been a game-changer?

Oh my, of course. There’s no doubt about it. Oh my gosh. Yes, that would have been amazing if we had those—never mind worrying about safety pins and belts. You just put them on like ordinary underpants. 

I think it’s wonderful because it alleviates a lot of worrying about when your period starts. You’d be prepared right away, you wouldn't have that embarrassing moment that happens to some of us.

I think everyone would be pleased to try them. You wouldn’t know the difference between period underwear and regular underwear.  

With the launch of Leakproof UltraThin No-Show underwear, we’re changing the period game (again) with new products and absorbencies that feel more lightweight than ever. This is all, of course, with the aim of helping you feel uninhibited on your period, so you can live unapologetically free (from bulky underwear). 

Whether you’re a period underwear enthusiast or novice, we’re here to help you find the best period underwear for your lifestyle and flow. Ahead is everything you need to know about our new absorbency classifications and which styles best suit whatever phase of life you're in. 

Oh, and psst, if the packaging on your glossy new undies doesn’t totally match up to this guide—don’t worry, we’re working on that. 

Lightest Absorbency 🩸

For your lightest period days—you know, when you’re spotting and kind of just want to forget you’re on your period altogether—there’s Light Leakproof No-Show Underwear. This range is designed to be your best friend on light flow days and can be worn with tampons and menstrual cups as backup leak protection. To that we say: go ahead and wear the white pants. 

Absorbency: Absorbs 1 to 1.5 tsps of menstrual fluid, discharge, and sweat—which is about the equivalent of 0.5-1 regular tampon. 

Styles: Light Leakproof No-Show Bikini, Boyshort, High Rise, Thong, High Rise Thong, Cheeky, and Mesh Thong.

Best for: Wearing solo when you’re spotting, backup protection on regular flow days, and mildly sweaty workouts. 

Light Absorbency 🩸🩸

Among our Light Leakproof assortment are slightly more absorbent underwear styles that can be worn in combination with tampons and menstrual cups as backup protection on regular flow days—or on their own on days when you’re wondering hmm…is my period actually over or am I still spotting? 

Absorbency: Absorbs 1.5-3 tsps of menstrual fluid, discharge, and sweat—which is about the equivalent of 1-3 regular tampons.

Styles:

• Light Leakproof No-Show Mesh High Rise and Bikini.
• Light Leakproof Luxe Modal Bikini and Boyshort. 
• Light Leakproof UltraThin No-Show Thong.
• Light Leakproof No-Show French Cut.

Best for: Your first time trying period underwear, wearing as backup protection (with a tampon or menstrual cup), days when you’re spotting, working up a sweat. 

Medium Absorbency 🩸🩸🩸

Looking for more than just backup protection? For regular flow days, there’s period underwear that can be worn solo all-day long (or as a backup when your flow is heavier). If you want all the absorbency but none of the bulk, opt for the newest Leakproof UltraThin No-Show styles. 

Absorbency: Absorbs 3-6 tsps worth of menstrual fluid, sweat, and urine—which is about the equivalent of 2-3 super tampons.

Styles:

• Leakproof UltraThin No-Show Bikini, French Cut, and High Rise.
• Leakproof Front-to-Back Liner Bikini and High Rise.
• Leakproof Cotton Modal Bikini and High Rise. 
• Leakproof Cotton Bikini and High Rise.
• Leakproof CoreLove High Rise. 
• Leakproof No-Show Thong.

Best for: Wearing solo on medium flow days, backup protection on heavy flow days, and light bladder leaks. 

Heavy Absorbency 🩸🩸🩸🩸

If we had a dime for every time we soaked through bedsheets or our favorite pair of pants, our bank accounts would all have an extra comma. Super Leakproof period underwear styles were designed with heavier flow days in mind—because who wants to wake up early to change their tampon? 

Absorbency: Absorbs 6-11 tsps of menstrual fluid, sweat, and urine—which is about the equivalent of 3-6 super tampons.

Styles:

• Super Leakproof No-Show Bikini, Boyshort, High Rise, and French Cut.
• Super Leakproof Cotton Boxer Brief.
• Super Leakproof Dream Short. 

Best for: Your period’s heavier days, overnight protection for sweet dreams, and sneaky bladder leaks when you cough or sneeze.

Ultra Absorbency 🩸🩸🩸🩸🩸

Our Zones+ Ultra absorbent period underwear are not messing around when it comes to leak protection. These heavy-duty styles leave period and bladder leaks shaking in their boots. And for good reason—this is our most absorbent assortment of period underwear to date, featuring extended coverage zones for targeted protection where you need it most. 

Absorbency: Absorbs 13 to 17 tsps of menstrual fluid, sweat, and urine—which is about the equivalent of 7-9 super tampons.

Styles: Ultra Leakproof Zones+ Bikini and High Rise.

Best for: Wearing solo on your heaviest period days (and nights), as well as light bladder leaks during postpartum, menopause, and life’s other phases. 

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For the full scoop on updated absorbency levels and product names, check out this comprehensive guide. 

“This is just the way it is,” we're told by our teachers, coaches, co-workers, friends, mothers and even our doctors. “Now, stop whining and get back to your day!”

And for the most part, that's what we do. From the moment we start menstrual periods, we grin and bear the pain through clenched teeth. We take deep breaths through paralyzing cramps and do our best not to show it. We often don't even talk about it in the fear that it could make other people uncomfortable.

And that's the problem. 

A lack of research on menstruating bodies paired with the “periods are taboo” mindset create a space in which pain is belittled to normalcy. So when that pain actually is abnormal, how are we to know the difference? 

The first time I'd ever heard the term ‘Endometriosis' was when my friend described the long and horrific journey she took to getting an endometriosis diagnosis. She discussed how the chronic pelvic pain that started developing in adolescence worsened to a point where she couldn't leave the bathroom floor for days during her periods. She would be sick to her stomach throughout her cycle, and was dismissed by handfuls of doctors until she found one who actually listened. 

Endometriosis (or “endo”) is a disease in which endometriosis tissue similar to the lining of the uterus grows outside of the uterus to form lesions, cysts, nodules, scar tissue, and other growths. Because the location of these growths vary, symptoms of endometriosis can look different for every single person who develops it. 

It is estimated that endometriosis affects 1 in 10 women and unmeasured numbers of trans and gender diverse people. As we head into Endometriosis Awareness Month (March), let's stop normalizing painful periods and educate ourselves on symptoms of endometriosis, paths to getting endometriosis diagnosed, and where to find support.

Identifying Symptoms of Endometriosis

While the symptoms of endometriosis vary from person to person, the most common can include: 

• Painful menstrual cramps/pelvic pain
• Lower back, pelvic or abdominal pain
• Painful intercourse
• Painful bowel movements or urination
• Bloating, nausea or vomiting
• Diarrhea or constipation
• Extreme fatigue  
• Ovarian cysts
• Internal scar tissue 

For a more detailed list of endometriosis symptoms, visit The Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada. 

How to Treat Endometriosis

While there's currently no cure for endometriosis, there are many ways to help treat endometriosis pain and relieve symptoms. If you're experiencing severe symptoms, a great place to start to seek a medical professional or endometriosis specialist.

A qualified medical professional can perform a pelvic exam, detect endometrial cells or abnormal tissue, and potentially diagnose endometriosis. Early treatment can help slow or even cease the progression endometriosis tissue and lesions, while reducing the long-term symptoms.  

It's extremely beneficial to research health care providers who have direct experience working with patients with endometriosis. This may take some time, so try to be patient with yourself by asking for support from friends and family and continual self-advocacy. On average, it takes 5 years for people in Canada to get a diagnosis.

Online resources like The Endometriosis Network has compiled a list of health providers with direct endo experience. They also include helpful questions to ask during your appointments! 

Medications (like anti inflammatory drugs nsaids) and birth control options (like oral contraceptives) are also options that many folks find helpful, though it depends entirely on your own health needs.

Excision (where the entire endometriosis lesions are removed) or ablation (which treats the surface of the endometriosis lesions) surgeries are considered to be highly-effective and minimally invasive surgery option to treat and remove endometriosis tissue—especially for those with severe endometriosis.

Other forms of hormone therapy, too, are possible treatment options that can help manage pain and new scar tissue from forming.

Exploring Alternative Remedies

But what can you do to help treat endometriosis symptoms and lessen severe pain? 

Keeping track of your diet and taking note of any changes to your symptoms based on the foods you eat can be helpful, especially during your menstrual cycle.

If you know which foods cause you to flare up, you can search for anti-inflammatory alternatives. Drinking lots of fluids and picking fiber-rich foods can also help keep you regular to avoid constipation and uncomfortable bowel movements.

Light exercise like yoga and stretching can help with pelvic pain relief during menstrual periods, and it's encouraged to research relaxation and meditation techniques that reduce stress. Heating pads, warm baths, pain medications, and cramp ointments can help soothe muscles and ease cramping.

Finding Relief in Community Support 

Because an endometriosis diagnosis can be very isolating—as can painful menstrual periods—consider reaching out to people who offer safe spaces for you. Though friends, family, and spouses may not know exactly what you're going through, sharing your experiences and feelings with them can be therapeutic and calming.

Alternatively, research different support groups so that you can speak with people who are going through a similar journey. The more people talk about painful periods, the more research and education will come from shedding light on this chronic disease that impacts the lives of so many.

If you know someone suffering with endometriosis, the best thing you can do is listen. Let them share their story with you. Explore their support options with them. Offer to help with chores or tasks if they're struggling. Let them know that you're there for them 100% of the way. 

Unfortunately, we live in a society where menstruation has been downplayed, dismissed, and (in many cases) completely ignored in the world of medical testing and treatment. Because of this, asking questions and addressing concerns can feel awkward. It can even feel downright uncomfortable! But, painful endurance and silent resignation are not the way ahead. 

Endometriosis advocates and allies have been proving that through their strength and persistence. It's only by sharing in the stories of our pain and pushing back against dismissal that we can move forward by saying, “Actually, no! That's not just the way it is anymore!” 

Sources:

https://msmagazine.com/2023/01/23/menstruation-clinical-trials-research-women-periods-covid/

https://www.womenshealth.gov/a-z-topics/endometriosis

https://www.yourperiod.ca/endometriosis/what-are-the-symptoms-of-endometriosis/

https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/endometriosis

https://endoact.ca/

https://endometriosisnetwork.com/

https://www.nichd.nih.gov/health/topics/endometri/conditioninfo/treatment

https://www.endofound.org/advocacy

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We hope you found this post informative—but remember: we’re not doctors and this post is not medical advice! While all posts are fact-checked and well researched, we always recommend you chat with your doctor about any questions or concerns you might have regarding a medical condition.

We’re here to support and educate, but never with the aim of disregarding professional medical advice you’ve been given. Phew, now that that’s out of the way, you can go on living unapologetically free.

Brimming with hand-picked goods from Black-owned small businesses (including some of our very own Knix Ambassadors), these boxes were gifted to some special folks within our community. 

Guided by the theme "Unapologetically Black," Ambassador Coordinator, Raven McKenzie Newman, says "I wanted to speak to the brand and our philosophy of encouraging women to live unapologetically free, and combine that with the recognition every Black woman deserves."

In her own words, "Unapologetically Black is the statement I wanted every woman to be reminded of, and hope this empowers each and every one of them to show up in this world confident in exactly who they are—melanin and all!"

But just because you weren't among the lucky few to receive this special gift box doesn't mean you can't shop the curated selection (and we're not ones to gate-keep). Ahead, you'll find all the community creations we can't get enough of. 

Frizz + Co

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Frizz + Co founder, Daphné Eastmond, always struggled with her hair—until she decided “made for all hair types” just wasn’t good enough. In developing her own product line for textured hair, she discovered how to embrace her natural curls. And with her foray into entrepreneurship came the advent of the ultimate hair repair mask, so everyone can have day-one hair every day. 

Curly Prints 

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Speaking of curly hair, this sister-duo is dedicated to celebrating and representing curls. That’s why their comfy, high-quality loungewear features bold and vibrant prints inspired by a diversity of curls. Whether your hair is wavy, frizzy, or full of ringlets, sisters Candicia and Camilla invite you to wear it proud and join the Curly Gang. 

Noire Girls Plant

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Noire Girls Plant founder, Jordianne Beckford, discovered her love of plants gave way to a form of healing and community. Once a plant mom, she now likens herself to a botanical concierge who helps others cultivate the restorative pleasures of growing plants. This uplifting brand provides helpful resources for those looking to nurture their mental health through nurturing the natural world—so that we may all blossom. 

Kerl Beauty 

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Kerl Beauty founder, Natasha Sheppard, was born to girl-boss. Even as a kid, her entrepreneurial resume included everything from selling clothes to starting a dog-walking service. Things took a curly-haired turn in university when she began the journey of embracing her natural tresses. Today, she’s a curly queen with a line of affordable hair care products aimed at helping others discover the power of making every day a good hair day. 

London Ivy 

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Simplicity is at the core of London Ivy’s natural and organic self-care assortment. Using nothing but the highest quality natural ingredients, founder Monique London is all about creating products that lead to clearer skin and hydrated curls. Handcrafted and cruelty-free, the brand’s lineup of hair and skin care products prove you don’t need a 12-step routine to feel your best.

UNBTHRD Fashion

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This gender neutral clothing brand is all about protecting your peace. UNBTHRD reflects its founder, Sol Williams, ethos of challenging social norms and rising above negativity. As inclusive as it is comfortable, the brand’s joggers and crewnecks are adorned with affirmations that make for everyday statement pieces. 

Slay the Mic

Public speaker, coach, and self-proclaimed mic-slayer Jam Gamble brings energy and connection to every room she steps into. She also shares her gift by helping others tap into the ultimate superpower: their voice. Her dynamic public speaking programs are geared towards transforming your communication skills and honing engaging storytelling. Whether you’re looking to slay-the-mic at your next work presentation or to captivate a keynote audience, Jam knows how to help foster your inner-speaker.

However you choose to celebrate (or not celebrate), there’s hardly a better time of year to foster deep bonding and connection in your romantic relationships. And if your partner is seeing red for non-love related reasons (they’re on their period!), then what better way to show you care than nurturing them through their menstrual cycle? 

If your partner’s period is fraught by cramping, discomfort, mood swings, or the slew of other not-so-fun symptoms associated with menstruation, chances are your gestures of love will go a long way. 

Aside from the onslaught on dismal side effects often brought on by this hormonal phase, people who menstruate also face inequality at almost every level of society. In the workplace or at school, your partner may not be able to take time off or reduce their workloads when experiencing period-related symptoms. 

Even within the medical system, chronic pain and other health conditions related to menstrual health (like endometriosis, PMDD, and PCOS) often remain under-researched, misunderstood, and mistreated. 

Social stigma, too, contributes to expectations of secrecy and discretion surrounding periods. Which is to say, not only might your partner be experiencing period-related discomfort, but it’s also likely they feel external pressure to hide it. 

The past few years have been marked by progress in the period arena as women-led brands, online activists, body-positive influencers, authors, and academics push to lessen stigma and raise awareness. 

Still, sometimes the most meaningful progress can be affected in the comfort of home, through our intimate relationships. Ahead, you’ll find helpful tips on how to support your partner during their menstrual cycle.  

Educate Yourself

Think back to your high school biology or sexual health classes. What (if anything) do you remember learning about periods? If the answer is not much, you’re among the majority. 

Even when sex ed delves comprehensively into female reproductive health and hormonal cycles (there are actually four distinct phases) curriculums don’t encompass how to care for someone with a menstrual cycle. 

So, if you’re in a relationship with someone who menstruates, one of the best things you can do is educate yourself. But where to start?

Consider starting with the biology of menstruation—that’s to say, how does it actually work? From there, you can work your way up to understanding the fundamentals of hormonal phases, cycle syncing, the signs and symptoms of certain period-related conditions, and the best products and treatments that can help provide relief. 

Once you’ve soaked up all that knowledge, apply it to your relationship. How does your behavior or shared environment impact your partner’s period? From cooking up iron-rich foods during their menstrual cycle to getting familiar with everyday endocrine disruptors that may be lingering around your home, the opportunities to support your partner are virtually boundless. 

Ask Them What They Need 

Once you have a baseline understanding of the menstrual cycle and how your partner’s body changes throughout the month, the best way to offer support is to ask them what they need. 

This may seem simple, but it’s also incredibly powerful. Asking about their particular needs will give your partner the opportunity to connect more deeply with themselves in identifying their needs, allowing them to share an important—but often overlooked—area of their life. 

Those needs will look different in every relationship. For instance, your partner might appreciate you taking on the bulk of the cooking and cleaning so they can focus on rest. For others, support might look like being extra patient and loving because their emotions are more charged. 

Create a Period Care Package

Whether or not gifting is one of your partner’s love languages, if you want to go the extra mile, consider creating a period care package for your sweetheart. First, you’re going to want to find out their favorite comfort snacks and meals—dark chocolate? Salty munchies? Carbs on carbs?

You can also inquire about their go-to pain relief remedies and self care rituals. From cramp cream to epsom salts for a hot bath, there are near endless possibilities to provide much-needed comfort. 

Of course, comfortable and reusable period products, like Period Underwear, are also a game-changer—and we’re sure your partner’s top drawer could always use an extra pair. 

For nights of deep rest and sweet dreams, the Super Leakproof Dream Short is a period must-have. Designed with extra absorbency for overnight flows, these dreamy sleep shorts know there’s no better sleep than a leak-free sleep. 

Accept That You Might Not Understand 

If you don’t menstruate but your partner does, it might feel challenging to not entirely understand what they’re going through. This natural cycle is experienced by half the population, yet, it’s also incredibly intimate and varies from person to person. 

Some experience minimal symptoms during this phase, while others experience intense discomfort that can disrupt their day-to-day activities. While the male hormonal cycle operates on a roughly 24-hour loop, the female hormonal cycle is complex and ever-fluctuating—just as your partner’s needs likely are. 

If you can’t entirely relate, that’s OK. The best thing you can do is be open to learning and providing support in whatever way you’re able to by meeting them where they are in any given phase. 

Women who followed their original instructions and passed down the teachings of our creations story. Women who bled and birthed deep in the woods, by firelight or moonlight, and always surrounded by midwives—or as we would say: mashkikiiwikwe (Medicine Woman). 

The teachings of birth are highly revered within my community. They come to us, as women, when we get our first period or “moon time.”

When I was a young woman this time was very special for me. I was 13 years old when my grandmother (my first period) visited me for the first time. It was February 17, 2000.

I remember this date because it is my niece's birthday, and my mother announced the occasion to the entire restaurant that evening at her party. I remember how hot my cheeks got when I was singled out for having bled for the first time. 

This feeling would visit me often as I grew through my teenage years. See, in my house, periods were never something to be ashamed of, to hide or shy away from. Especially if you knew your teachings.

The berry fast gives you the teachings of life, of life bearing and creation. It speaks of sacrifice and responsibility and the care that must be taken to protect life and our sacred vessels as women.

I did not eat berries for one year. Harvesting the berries each season, but not eating them was a lesson in community—to think beyond yourself and see your role amongst others.

At the end of that year, I served the berries I had harvested and offered gifts I had made to my community and, in turn, they welcomed me as a new woman. My roles and responsibilities changed and the teaching I was offered transformed me.

I felt the weight of my ancestors on my shoulders and the strength of them in the earth under my feet as I walked through my teenage years.

The pressure of being a woman in this world is mighty. I felt that pressure. I had to learn to love my body and keep my spirit safe. I always felt like I was walking in two worlds. 

I felt like a target and never felt safe outside my community, especially amongst men. So the teachings of life helped to protect me as I navigated the clash between western, colonial views of women's rights and responsibilities, which are mostly to serve men and create a family.

I rebelled against the ways women were lifted up in colonial society, mostly because it caused me so much pain and my body too much harm as I grew into womanhood. 

To be more blunt, being seen as an object—just a body to be desired—was alarming and earth shattering for me. Especially in times when women were increasingly standing for self determination and equal rights.

My mother, a feminist, fought hard for me to walk proud and carry myself in a positive way. So, when I say my roles and responsibilities changed, I’m talking about the responsibility to carry life, to care for life—my own life at the center as a priority.

In my lodge, I became a buffalo dancer and that asked me to take on the responsibility of caring for others; to use my gifts to heal and care for community.

As a woman, I hold the responsibility of carrying on the ways of my ancestors. It is a choice to follow in their footsteps.

Honoring my moon time, that sacred time every month to sit with my grandmother, to be slow and considerate of my body is following in those footsteps.

It is a time in my house when I am left to rest. It is a monthly reminder for self care and caring for one's own spirit vessel (body). Each month, when my moon time comes, I honor her visit. 

This evolved as I became a mother. As you try to carry life, you come to watch your periods. Then, you  pray for your grandmother to allow new life to come to you. 

For nine months, she doesn’t visit you as you carry and care for life. For me, it was over three years that my grandmother didn’t come to visit (I didn’t get my period) while I carried and cared for life. 

I got so busy and so distracted, I didn’t realize how much I missed her—and her teachings of kindness and strength. Her teachings brought me the ability to carry life and prepared me for each step of the way. The years of blood shaped me.

My big sister Selena is doing her berry fast again, this time with her young daughter who just started her berry fast. Selena is in the change of life now (perimenopause). 

She’s in the opposite moment of her daughter’s burgeoning reproductive life. Her grandmother visited her for many years, gifted her with two beautiful children, and now will leave her to transform into a grandmother herself.

This change of life is happening to all my big sisters right now. It’s a beautiful moment for me as a new mom. To bask in the teachings of life and all the ways they manifest to hold us.

I have always looked to my big sisters to prepare for what is to come. I also hold the memories of what it was like to become a young woman as my own mother went into menopause. 

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I remember so clearly her discomfort, and the physical manifestations of transformation. She didn’t get to have a ceremony, like the berry fast to welcome the next stage of life. 

Her role in community, however, shifted. She is an elder, healer, and knowledge keeper for the people. She has spent her life picking up teachings that were stolen; rekindling the fire of creation amongst the people.

She brought three women up in this world and raised a young nation of proud Anishinaabekwes.

She allowed our blood memory to flow, hold its reverence, and lift us up into the power and protection every woman deserves. These are the teachings of women, of nationhood, of creation.

We bleed. We carry and care for life. This is the work of grandmothers of many generations. Since the very beginning of life itself.

Though it’s been shrouded by ageist remarks, sexist headlines, and quiet whispers, perimenopause is as routine as puberty or your monthly period. But what happens when that familiar period stops? Or becomes irregular?

Starting as early as your 30s, those in perimenopause can experience up to a whopping 34 different physical and mental health-related symptoms—including hot flashes, mood swings, night sweats, and muscle aches. 

Lack of knowledge and awareness are barriers to women speaking openly about their experiences. Left to internalize pain and discomfort, we often suffer in silence. 

In reality, there are tons of effective tools, coping mechanisms, and treatments available. If only we could recognize the signs and say them out loud. 

Well, we’re talking about perimenopause out loud. Shouting it out loud, actually.

The Invisible Period is a campaign film created by Knix to shine light on a period of people’s lives that receives so little attention that 90% feel unprepared for the perimenopause journey. 

Directed by longtime Knix collaborator, Soleil Denault, the film is a portrait of life's natural patterns. It explores the routine periods that make up the rhythms of our lives, and the big, life-altering periods (or missed periods) that make up many of life's losses and milestones. 

We live with these periods for decades until, one day, The Invisible Period catches us off guard. 

Featuring Knix founder, Joanna Griffiths, content creator and activist, Sarain Fox, as well as members of the Knix community, the project aims to change the narrative around perimenopause. 

In school, we learn about puberty, periods, and pregnancy but perimenopause remains obscured. This even though, according to the National Institute on Aging, more than one million US-women experience menopause each year. 

Far from uniform, perimenopause affects everyone differently, and at different stages of life.

Notorious for its pesky symptoms—everything from anxiety to brain fog—many women enter this often decade-spanning phase without even knowing. 

When those symptoms don't receive the support they deserve, people are often left feeling alone; women leave the workforce in droves, thinking something is wrong with them, or muscle-through discomfort when they don't have to. 

This simply reinforces false notions that menopausal women are in decline, that their social value has somehow depreciated. 

This couldn't be further from the truth: perimenopause is a new chapter, a transition full of changes that can be empowering with access to the right support and resources. 

It's not just a talking point for women, either. Everyone—including men—are invited to help change the narrative, participate in discourse, and offer support to the perimenopausal folks in their life. 

We’re shedding the shame, cultural taboos, and misconceptions surrounding menopause and helping give it the rebrand it so desperately needs. Because from your first period to your last, we've got you covered. 

And no, I didn’t have a baby — rather it was me who was reborn when I came out as Transgender on my 19th birthday.

It was 2013 and, to my dismay, there were virtually no positive representations of transgender people in mainstream media. In the years since, lots has changed — both in the mainstream and on a personal level. 

Now, 10 years later, I’m celebrating how far I’ve come. For years, I struggled every day with the gender I was assigned at birth, fighting constantly to express myself without coloring outside the lines. 

With my birthday and trans-anniversary celebration on the horizon, I’m reflecting on my decade-long journey to becoming the truest version of myself, and who I was born to be.

The Early Days of Self-Discovery 

Growing up, my mom and dad always supported my interests, but like many parents, tried to protect me from society. 

Despite clear signs and protests that there was something more beneath the surface, they made sure I went to school dressed for my assigned gender. 

One fateful day, 19-year-old me came across YouTuber Gigi Gorgeous’ first I am Transgender video. With just one click, I was introduced to a new world — one with vocabulary that accurately described what I hadn’t been able to put into words for so long.

And with that, my journey to gender freedom began. 

Not only did I gain mental clarity, there was also an explosion of trans faces making their way into mainstream spaces. Orange Is The New Black made its Netflix debut and Laverne Cox — an open trans actress — played a trans role in the series. 

It was groundbreaking. And, as time has gone on, more and more trans folks have appeared at the forefront, their stories finally being shared.

Despite the challenges trans people face daily, representation in mainstream media can help aid personal development. In retrospect, when I was growing up, representation was severely lacking.

Trans voices have always been there, that’s nothing new. But the rise in trans public figures has generated a level of visibility that creates space for other trans folks to embrace being themselves, to know they’re enough and never alone (cliché but necessary!).

Becoming the Representation I Needed 

Even as a little kid, my love for fashion, beauty, and entertainment knew no bounds. 

In 2016, I began blogging about fashion trends and style, and dove into work as a freelance model. While it was fun to explore these passions, it was also difficult to navigate my gender dysphoria as a trans girl.

Deep down, I always knew my dreams of working in fashion were tangible, I just had to keep believing in myself. 

As brands evolved and became more inclusive, I remember finding it refreshing to see less singular forms of feminine beauty: women from different walks of life, cultures, and body types. 

It felt like there was more opportunity for me to model and create — including the opportunity to feature in Knix’s “Love Your Shape” campaign. 

As a trans woman, modelling shapewear and underwear in a space that’s typically reserved for cisgender women of a certain body type was a barrier-breaking moment. It has empowered me to live out my dreams, while embracing my body and of my perfectly imperfect flaws. 

These experiences have been liberating, something I thought could never happen for someone like me. It’s this newfound confidence that allowed me to overcome the mental and physical hurdles that weighed on me since coming out. 

Finding Agency and Doing the Inner Work

After years of feeling tormented by my appearance, feeling trapped every time I looked in the mirror, I worked up the nerve (and, of course, finances) to book a tracheal shave surgery.

While there are many different opinions on elected surgery, it’s a personal decision and the prerogative of each individual trans person. For me, it’s a subtle change that brings me peace every single day. 

Did the surgery improve how I feel about my outward appearance? Absolutely. Did it put a stop to the negative internal dialogue in my head? Definitely not. 

Inner work in the form of therapy and daily affirmations in the mirror have also been crucial to building up my confidence. Mental health is a long, nonlinear journey that involves uncomfortable conversations and daily work. 

But, as much as self-work is a constant, sometimes you have to pop a bottle and look back on how far you’ve come. 

After a decade of navigating life as a trans woman, and learning to accept and love myself for who I’m meant to be, my upcoming birthday and anniversary is such a special milestone. 

I’m grateful for the trans community and our collective efforts to create space and opportunity for multiple trans identities to exist, and for our stories to be told from our own perspectives.

As I enter the last year of my twenties, I’m grateful to be surrounded by diversity, doing work that’s changing the narrative around trans identities, and chasing my dreams. 

Who knows what’s in store for me as I enter this new chapter, but if I’ve learned anything: sky’s the limit.

Aside from the fact that it sounds kind of fun, for all the times we’ve been poked and prodded by an underwire, there are a few bras we wouldn’t mind seeing go up in flames. 

Radical and bad-ass as it may sound, the whole bra-burning feminist thing is largely a myth — one that was concocted by sensationalist media outlets of eras past, looking for grabby headlines and to undermine the second wave feminist movement. 

It’s a legend that rewinds us back to the 1968 Miss America Pageant, where the Women’s Liberation Movement rallied to disrupt the narrow representations of female beauty and womanhood being put on display at the televised beauty pageant. 

The iconic demonstration featured a “Freedom Trash Can,” where women were invited to toss anything they viewed as symbolic tools of patriarchal oppression. As women stepped into their power, tubes of lipstick, women’s magazines, mops, and heels were hurled into the trash can by the dozen. 

Then, fatefully, some women unhooked their bras and slinged them into the trash, freeing their breasts from the constraints of their underwire shackles. The only kind of burning that took place, however, was purely symbolic. 

Against the backdrop of the feminist revolution, bras — with their metal wires and restrictive fabric — were increasingly seen as an oppressive garment. But, today, have we fully escaped the grips of the cone-bra, metal corset, and its latest iteration: the underwire bra?

With the advent of bras made by women for women, with the aim of being comfortable and not (necessarily) for the purposes of stoking male desire, we’d say there are some pretty revolutionary bras out there today (read: our lineup of aptly named Revolution Bras). 

The underwire bra has been deemed passé and the female gaze (and wireless bra) has stepped onto the scene — but the story of how we got here warrants more exploration. 

For one, bras have been around for a long long time. Garments used to hold up breasts have existed for basically as long as, well, breasts. 

Within the mosaics of a Sicilian castle that dates back to 4th century AD are depictions of women wearing supportive fabric while engaging in sport. 

But there’s a pretty wide gap between those makeshift garments and the modern, double cup, adjustable bra we know today. 

Notoriously rigid, restraining, and made from bone, ivory, and metal, corsets aimed to mold women’s bodies and emphasize a narrow waist. 

The corset reigned from the 16th century until 1889, when feminist Herminie Cadolle had the ingenious idea of cutting the undergarment in half for more freedom of movement — she coined it the “corselet-gorge.” 

In 1913, the modern bra made its first appearance when Mary Phelps Jacobs DIY-ed a piece of lingerie out of two silk handkerchiefs and some ribbon. Inspired to fashion it when her corset kept peeking out from her plunging neckline, she sold them to women in her community before selling the patent to Warner Brothers Corset Company for $1500. 

We can’t help but roll our eyes knowing the company went on to garner over $15 million in sales from the bra over the next few decades. 

By the time cup sizes and hook-and-eye fastenings came around, it was the 1930s. With metal being in high demand during wartime, the corset fell into oblivion while bras crafted for the male gaze gained ascendence. 

Popularized by stars like Marilyn Monroe and Jayne Mansfield during the Hollywood golden age, the bullet bra — with its cylindrical padding — made an impact on the evolving feminine ideal. 

Padded, and even inflatable bras were all the rage as full busts and cinched waists infiltrated everything from Christian Dior runways to movie screens. 

It’s no wonder by the time the 1960s came around, women were ready to throw in the towel (or throw the bra into the trash can, as the story goes). 

As women connected and rallied over their shared oppression (which, notably at this time lacked intersectionality) the bra became one of the many targets of pushing back against enforced femininity. 

Changing notions of gender and sexuality, inspired by the second wave feminist revolution, gave way to more organic shapes and functional fabrics. Women everywhere let out a giant sigh of relief.

Unfortunately, the reprieve was short-lived. Having abandoned centuries of restrictive, male-focused undergarments, the 90s and early-2000s marked a resurgence in performative sexiness. 

The same logic that was used to sell corsets and bullet bras to housewives in the 1950s was at work again, this time in the form of the underwire push-up bra. Designed to constrict and contort, lingerie was sold to women under the guise of self-empowerment. 

Rooted in male fantasy and pleasure, angel wings, slender frames, and seriously uncomfortable bras dominated the decades. 

While the bra seems to be here to stay, we’ve mostly stepped out of the dark ages of bras as symbols of female torture and into the golden days of comfortable, functional, and wireless bras — ones that women have designed themselves, based on their own needs and desires.

As women stake a claim on their sexuality, undergarments are less focused on seduction and increasingly prioritize how women want to look and feel. 

We don’t have to live between the dichotomy of “sexy” or “practical” — our undergarments can reflect our mood, personal taste, and style. 

Still, we can’t help but want to reclaim the image of the bra-burning feminist. It’s an enduring persona that was devised to trivialize the feminist movement, and it’s due for a rebrand. 

We’re all for the Revolution Bras of today that provide barely-there comfort and support, and ready to set our underwires ablaze — if only metaphorically. 

As feminist and journalist Lindsy Van Gelder, who’s famed for reporting on the 1968 Miss America Pageant protests once wrote: “I never burned my bra in the sixties, but I wish I had.” 

Thin was in, and I and every other adolescent I knew was busy internalizing the narrow beauty ideals that dominated the decade—a mission that every magazine ad, commercial, TV show, and music video seemed intent on conveying. 

When I discovered Knix would be collaborating with early aughts pop prince (and Knix friendly) Shawn Desman on a music video for his newest release “Love Me With The Lights On,” a wave of nostalgia took hold. Was this an opportunity for a mini do-over? 

What I hoped would ensue was a dance anthem that combined Y2K charm and shower-singing potential with the representation that era so desperately lacked. 

Unsure what to expect, on the day of the music video shoot, I was giddy to find Shawn’s 1-2-step in full effect, the spotlight surging with a diversity of underwear-clad folks strutting their stuff. 

The final product delivers the slow-motion captures, close-ups, saturated palette, glorious wind machines, and other Y2K-proclivities I’d hoped for—except it features everyday women.

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Behind the scenes, a chorus of folks cheered each other on as they stepped on camera for the first time. The warm and whimsical ambience suggested the shoot was, for many, an exercise in healing their inner-child.

“Conceptually, the whole thing is about empowering people to just be comfortable in your own skin,” Shawn tells me between takes, his eight-year-old daughter in tow. “I wanted [my daughter] to be here because I wanted her to see and hear all of this.”

Motivational speaker and music video star Jam Gamble describes the experience as “surreal.” 

I ask about the music video’s potential effect on young people. “I think I just know how I felt at that age. I didn't see myself in music videos,” she says. “The thought of somebody watching me and not feeling the way I felt back then is really powerful.”

For Victoria Chiappetta, growing up with a physical disability meant trying to dim her light to fit in. “It was [during] COVID that I started to see the world in a different light, through social media I started meeting people and was like, you know what, maybe there is space for me,” she says.

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She describes taking part in the music video as a full circle moment. “When you’re growing up and you don’t look like anybody, you’re really questioning your purpose and role in the world.” 

“I’ve been listening to Shawn since I was younger and growing up,” she continues. Being a part of the project—“it sounds cliche”—feels like a strange coincidence that has altered her perception of beauty. 

Representation means “seeing people like me, the girl with the prosthetic leg” and its powerful influence exceeds the personal, reverberating and inspiring others to step into their own light; to be seen and heard. 

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Everyone on set had their own story and motivating force for taking part in the music video, including Shawn, who wrote the song as an ode to his wife after health complications left her feeling self-conscious about her body.  

But if Shawn’s new certified bop is any indication, desire is no issue for the “Love Me With The Lights On” singer. 

Beyond its love ballad origins, the song and music video challenge traditional notions of beauty—asking the music video stars and audience alike: what does beauty mean to you?

Whether it’s moving through the world with confidence, refusing to shrink yourself to fit in, or being the representation you never saw growing up, the answer is free form and for you to decide. 

For three years, I kept my battle with breast cancer somewhat private — I genuinely believed it wasn't significant enough to warrant sharing. It wasn't until I crossed paths with a remarkable group of young women that my perspective changed. 

They stressed that it didn't matter what stage I was, the extent of my treatment, or even the absence of it. I’m young and I have breast cancer; every day, this is my reality. 

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I now believe the more I share my story, discuss my experience, and help educate women my age, better are the chances I can help others identify potential issues and make it through. 

Sharing my personal experience, wherever and whenever I can, can make a huge difference. That includes highlighting warning signs, providing tips on how to do self-examinations, and inspiring others to become advocates of their health.

Regardless of how many times a doctor may dismiss our worries with empty assurances, we must advocate for ourselves and refuse to accept dismissive answers. 

That's why I'm here — not to seek sympathy or attention for my own situation — but to be bold and brutally honest, hoping to help as many people as I possibly can.

Becoming Accustomed to My Ever-Changing Body

Over the past five years, I've undergone multiple lumpectomies — and now I’ve reached the unfortunate stage where I need a double mastectomy. 

While the lumpectomies were certainly unpleasant, I had almost gotten used to them. I had learned to manage the pain and even found helpful products, which made a world of difference as my breasts recovered. But now, I’m facing a much more difficult challenge. 

The mere thought of having my breasts surgically removed is terrifying, but somehow the idea of losing my nipples is even more daunting. I’m not sure whether it’s the physical pain and recovery that frightens me most or the concept of permanently altering my femininity. 

Surgery no longer scares me — I've become accustomed to it. What comes afterwards, both the healing process and living my life with a different body, is extremely difficult to wrap my head around. 

Finding Inner Strength

I have a family history of breast cancer, so at a young age I was tested for certain genes linked to high occurrences of breast cancer. I was positive, which led to me and my doctors to be careful about monitoring my breasts for lumps.

If you have a family history of breast cancer, I highly recommend getting your genes tested. When I began getting lumps, I knew what the end result could be. 

Still, I was angry and scared when my doctor finally said the fateful words: “Let’s do your double mastectomy.” How could I be a 30-year-old woman without breasts? How could this happen to me? 

I realized then I hadn’t really believed it would come to this. It shook my world, and for a while, I could barely keep myself from screaming.

But with time comes more perspective, and even a few weeks helped me start to accept that this was the right choice. I’m not alone in this, I reminded myself. 

People like my grandmother, aunt, and friend have all gone through what I will go through. If they could do it, so can I.

If my grandmother could overcome cancer multiple times with unwavering strength, survive 10 years after being told she had three months to live, and still stand here today as strong as can be, then I can make it through, too. I’m a survivor, bred and born. 

Starting a New Chapter

Unlike a Disney movie, the reality is this story can’t simply end on that uplifting note. 

I won't sugar coat it; the fear remains, and this process is far from pleasant. I can't say I wish I had done it sooner, and I certainly can't claim to be happy about it because, truthfully, it sucks big time. 

What I am looking forward to, however, is closing this chapter of my life. I’m excited for reduced worries — not just for myself, but for my loved ones as well. I’m excited to put an end to my breast pain. 

Instead of frequent breast appointments, I hope to have them just once a year. Maybe then, once everything is behind me, I can find a greater sense of happiness and live a more stress-free, in-the-moment life.

Finally, no matter your age, I want to highlight the importance of getting familiar with breast cancer symptoms, doing self-exams, and communicating concerns with your doctor, which can potentially lead to early detection and make a world of a difference in terms of long term outcome. 

Like me, it could even save your life. Just taking the time to read my story could help you or someone you love — I hope it does. 

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Dedicated to my grandma, Joan Hart — the strongest woman I know.

For behavioral health scientist and director of maternal health at the Black Women’s Health Imperative (BWHI), Kanika Harris, that means “you have the support to take care of yourself and [your] growing baby,” she says. “It means that whatever brings you joy in this experience of bringing life into the world, you have the right to that.” 

Whether that looks like giving birth at home, being surrounded by friends and family, settling into an intuitive birthing position, or incorporating cultural rituals, there should be space in the birthing experience for autonomy and joy.

Why then, within the current framework, do safety, support, and empowerment remain firmly out of reach for so many burgeoning families? Kanika, who’s policy and birthing justice work champions health equity for Black women, stipulates “I think for us in this country, birth is not feeling safe anymore.” 

It’s a heart wrenching declaration — and one that’s supported by heaps of evidence. Despite the progress being made by BWHI and other birthing justice organizations, the stark reality is that birthing experiences and outcomes vary drastically based on racial identity, income, and social status. 

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These inequalities are a driving force in Knix’s decision to join forces with BWHI and to launch and sustain the NOURISH Program, a doula training program designed to meet the intersectional needs of Black birthing families. Taking a grassroots approach, the program is helping push the birthing justice movement forward. 

This movement, as defined by the University of California San Francisco, calls for safeguarding “the rights of birthing people to make decisions around their pregnancies, including seeking abortions, and to have children in safe and supportive environments.” 

It’s a reasonable ask and, yet, Black and LGBTQ2S+ folks, as well as immigrants, those who are low income and not able-bodied face mounting inequality, often struggling to access adequate care. 

The maternal mortality rate among Black birthing people in the U.S. remains disproportionately high, while thousands of others experience unexpected labor and delivery outcomes with complicated health consequences. It’s especially troubling if you consider 80% of pregnancy-related deaths are completely preventable. 

“Every mother, everywhere, regardless of race or background deserves to have a healthy pregnancy and birth,” reads a social post from world class athlete Serena Williams in honor of Black Maternal Health Week. 

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After welcoming her daughter via emergency C-section, she suffered a pulmonary embolism, among other health complications — an eye opening example of how structural racism and implicit bias can affect even the most privileged women of color. 

As organizations and advocates alike work towards eliminating barriers to health equity for Black women and birthing people, knowledge and education are key to empowering women of color to pursue the best health decisions for themselves. 

This looks like challenging the insidious forces of racism, sexism, and inequality at work within the health and reproductive care system. It also involves restoring knowledge to the Black birthing community by offering person-centered care and support from traditional birth-workers, like midwives and doulas.  

“I think having doulas present is providing continuous support and care, and providing a way for families to feel safe,” says Kanika. “[It’s] so critical that you have someone that’s helping you or providing you support throughout that journey.” 

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To date, the NOURISH program (which is scholarship-based and free of cost) has trained 38 full-spectrum doulas who have gone on to provide 160 Black birthing families with the physical, emotional, and informational support needed to manage the transition into parenthood and the postpartum phase. 

“The NOURISH program really came out of this idea of restoring autonomous communities that understand birth and have that knowledge for them and their families,” says Kanika. 

While the program provides postpartum doulas with the knowledge and resources needed to support birthing families, its grassroots approach also allows women to advocate for themselves, as well as circulate knowledge within their families and communities at large. 

Knix’s donations to the scholarship program have grown to over $200,000 — thanks, in part, to the $1 donations from every item purchased from our Maternity and Postpartum Collection. 

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As NOURISH continues to expand, it’s heartening to know that doulas — empowered with knowledge and person-centered care — are transforming the lives of those in their communities. And, in no small way, are driving the birthing justice movement forward by improving the health outcomes of birthing people. 

The crux, however, remains that how women show up to birth is just one component of an overarching system in which social determinants continue to negatively impact women of color on the whole (pregnant or not). 

When the health needs of women of color are being met, “then you don’t have to worry about how pregnant women show up to birth,” according to Kanika. 

“Maternal health is the number one indicator of the health of a nation,” she tells me. “Birthing justice means you have sovereignty and autonomy to live your life on your terms, get all the resources you need to provide for your family, [and to] live out your passions — whatever that means.”

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We hope you found this post informative — but remember: we’re not doctors and this post is not medical advice! While all posts are fact-checked and well researched, we always recommend you chat with your doctor about any questions or concerns you might have regarding a medical condition. We’re here to support and educate, but never with the aim of disregarding professional medical advice you’ve been given. Phew, now that that’s out of the way, you can go on living unapologetically free.

So, why does visible allyship seem limited to certain timeframes? What’s the difference between changing a logo to reflect the rainbow colors versus impacting authentic change? What does showing up mean, who benefits from it, and why is it important?

Allyship is more than just a buzzword — it has the power to transform the experiences of Queer folks, to create a sense of belonging, and allow people to discover and embrace their most authentic selves.

Queerness Isn’t a Phase

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I was 15 when I first officially came out to my parents, and it was a terrifying experience. I was grounded and caught sneaking on a device I wasn’t supposed to have. Can you guess what I was doing? I was texting a girl I liked, of course. 

It felt like my life was about to be over. Not only did I get caught, but now they were going to figure out I was gay by way of those messages. I decided to rip off the band-aid before they did and broke down in front of my mom — I had something to confess, I told her. 

I thought I had been sneaky, but my mother saw right through my veil. As her firstborn, she told me, she knew more about me than I knew about myself. My father’s reaction was one I’ll never forget: “I understand, boys aren’t that pretty anyways.” It was very on brand for my father, who, to this day, has remained my fiercest ally. 

Falling outside of the norm can be an incredibly isolating experience for Queer youth. It’s funny, some will say exposing kids to 2SLGBTQ+ people or media will make them Queer. I couldn’t even name a Gay public figure — and, yet, I was Queer-er than a three dollar bill. 

It didn’t take long to figure out I was different; I could already identify my otherness from my peers and siblings. I was what you would classify a “tomboy.” I hated dresses, only played with “boy toys,” and was always roughhousing with the guys instead of playing nicely with the girls. 

Various family members commented that it was a “phase” I would grow out of — that when puberty hit, I’d be all makeup, dresses, and boy-crazy. Fast forward years later, I was still that same tomboy, even less concerned with male validation, still roughhousing, and avoiding dresses at all costs. 

Support Through the Trials of Self-Identity

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I’ve always been one of the first openly queer people in any of my circles. I was truly blessed to have a support system that allowed me to do so. My friends not only accepted me without question, but created space for me to become more comfortable with my masculine side. 

My first girlfriend was in seventh grade, and I dated my best friend for over a year. I remember all my friends helping me ask her out, being supportive of our relationship, and never excluding us from events just because we happened to be Queer. There was no awkwardness, no change in our affection for one another. 

Coming out can be a terrifying time for people; you may think you know someone or think their love for you is unconditional, only to find out there are conditions. As people navigate these trials of self-identity, allyship and support are crucial in making folks feel that they truly belong. 

Though, at the time, I still identified as Bisexual (compulsory heterosexuality is one hell of a curve and a topic that warrants its own article), I had the same support years later when I finally felt confident identifying as a Lesbian. 

Self-discovery is an ongoing journey throughout our lives. Some may be able to swiftly step into their true identity and never sway. In contrast, others’ identities may evolve and fluctuate — neither experience invalidates the other. 

I have friends who change their names every couple of years, one who no longer identifies with the gender they presented as when we were kids — it’s all just a part of life. We grow, we learn, and we make new discoveries. 

Showing support through these natural evolutions is when allyship truly shines.

Let Your Allyship Shine Bright

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I was able to come to terms with being Bisexual then, later in life, identifying as a Lesbian because of the support around me. Support and understanding from allies in the lives of Queer folks can make this journey to self-acceptance less daunting. 

Be that person who uses the correct pronouns, affirms people’s choices, allows them to change, and doesn’t project your own ideas onto others. Strong allies don’t just happen, in the same way that finding confidence in my Queerness didn’t happen overnight. 

Allyship takes a conscious effort to develop the necessary understanding to be a solid support system for Queer folks. Take time to listen, learn, and be okay with being a beginner. It also means extending your allyship beyond Pride month and committing to year-round efforts. 

Seek out resources from Queer folks, stay informed on events and news for your local area, but don’t expect to place the burden of education on Queer folks in your life. Professors and experts are paid to share their knowledge, which is labor you should keep in mind when interacting with Queer people. 

Cultivate your active listening skills, foster compassion, and, most of all, always approach things with love.

Among the recipients of a Knix Fund grant is Moon Time Sisters, a flagship project of True North Aid and organization supporting Northern menstruators.

As the only Indigenous-led period equity group in Canada, Moon Time Sisters — soon to be Moon Time Connections — takes a decolonized and menstruator-centered approach to addressing the unique challenges facing Northern and remote communities by providing cost-prohibitive period products to those in need completely free-of-cost. 

Most recently, we had the pleasure of sitting down with organization founder, Nicole White, to chat everything from gender equity to Indigenous wisdom.

Can you tell me more about Moon Time Sisters, your mission, and what inspired you to found the organization?

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We've been around since January, 2017 and that was as a result of reading a story about menstruators in Northern Saskatchewan missing school because they didn't have access to menstrual products. 

When you read stories about the North, there’s a deficit lens to it and I didn’t want to add to that. I started calling my community across Saskatchewan. What started off as a small one-off project has manifested into a national organization, which I’m so proud of. 

We’re one of the only Indigenous-led menstrual equity groups in Canada. Part of our mission that is quite unique is that we provide the full spectrum of products. I’m just thrilled to have Knix on board in such a meaningful, powerful way and to be able to provide a reusable product. 

I feel like a central part of menstrual equity is empowering people to make whatever choice works best for their body or circumstances. What are some of the unique period-related challenges facing Indigenous and Northern communities?

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I’ll lay out a few things that we hear often from our communities. Access to clean water is a major issue and a number of communities have been under water advisories for, sometimes, their whole lifetime depending on where they live. 

So having that full spectrum [of products] is really important. I know sometimes donors reach out and say, “you know what these girls really need,” and there’s this kind of paternalistic nature to it. So we have focused on hearing the needs of the community and have really strived to meet those needs. 

During the pandemic there were tampon shortages we had to navigate. We had major issues with transport to Northern communities because a number of airlines were no longer running North during the pandemic. So, we’ve strived to pivot when we can and focus on different ways to get product North. 

I guess the other piece when it comes to Northern and remote communities, we frequently hear about food costs being three, four, or five times what we pay in Southern communities. That [applies to] period products, too. 

I talked to one mom, she picked up some pads at their shelter and said, “you know, my girls and I have never actually had [period] products before.” They only ever used socks. The idea that we are giving [period products] is a simple and powerful way to provide people dignity.

There may be different challenges they’re navigating every single day, and if one thing they don’t have to worry about is a period product, I’m very proud to be a part of offering that to them.

Do you see period equity and gender equality as going hand in hand?

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It’s deeply interwoven. When we talk about body autonomy and somebody’s personal journey around menstruation, it’s all interconnected with gender equity. I think you actually hit the nail on the head because when somebody is missing school, that reduces their ability to graduate and their ability to get a great job down the road. 

There’s all sorts of things connected to deep isolation that I think all of us have navigated these last few years. We have just finished up a study — for the first time ever — on menstrual equity [that involves] hearing the voices of Northern menstruators in Canada. 

I’m really excited to showcase some of the things Northern menstruators are navigating. I think we need to have a deeper conversation around menstruation and how it impacts our quality of life every single day. I think I'm passionate about talking about it and de-stigmatizing menstruation anytime we can. 

What do we stand to gain from integrating Indigenous wisdom into discourse surrounding period equity? 

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As an organization, we’ve really tried to look at the call to action and try to incorporate our mission statement into a medicine wheel of support. I do have Elders I access and ask questions to. We don’t have a formal [elder] connected to our organization yet, but hopefully that will come in the future. 

Really honoring people’s journey — I think that is at our core. Because of the personal nature of menstruation, we prioritize body autonomy in asking communities, “what do you need?” Saying “this is the only product we’re going to send to you because we know best,” that’s paternalistic and colonial in nature. 

We really strive to work for community and with community. If you check out our social media, I think we’ve really strived to create a bridge to provide education to settlers and provide education in a meaningful way that connects menstrual equity and Indigenous ways of knowing. 

One of the things we’re working on internally is looking at a rebrand and renaming. I worked closely with a group of two-spirit Elders and down the road, within the next year, we’ll be changing our organizational name to Moon Time Connections to honor our two-spirit and trans menstruators. 

It’s been a really intentional journey and we have been doing some deeper work to decolonize our organization. I live, I learn, and we always strive to do better. 

With "Moon Time" in mind, I’d love to know more about Indigenous wisdom surrounding the connection between menstruation and the natural environment — which is often obscured in colonized discourse around periods.

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A lot of Indigenous cultures have rights of passage ceremonies — moon time — that honor the coming of age. When you first start to menstruate, there’s a ceremony that occurs where everyone in your life surrounds you with a circle of support and helps you transition to this next phase of life. 

I think it’s a really beautiful way to honor that rite of passage and honor the fact that we are supporting young menstruators, increasing educational outcomes, and helping them continue to be connected to community and support while they’re navigating menstruation.

Like many art forms, it has the power to evoke, inspire, and be profoundly political. And the star of our latest Get Ready With Me segment, Gay Jesus, channels all of the above into their drag persona and performances. 

We recently caught up with the fabulous drag king and burlesque performer — who's a force to be reckoned with on the Canadian drag scene — to talk spreading trans joy, what it means to cultivate an authentic drag persona, art as a catalyst for social change, and so much more. 

From acting to theatre to drag performances, it seems like you have a lot of spinning plates these days. Tell us about what you’ve been up to lately!

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As I type this out I’m actually recently returned from Winnipeg as of two days ago. I was there for two months working with Prairie Theatre Exchange on the world premiere of Volare by Elio Zarrillo.

It was my second time visiting, as my first was just last summer when I flew out to perform in drag for the Cluster Festival and Canada Pride. It’s incredibly special to me to be able to center my communities in the work that I do and to be invited into ones outside of my own is always very moving to me. 

I knew from early on in my work as an artist that I wanted the messaging in my artistry to push for social progress and to celebrate intersectional queer visibility, but I think the more I do it, the more amazed I am that this gets to be my job.

There were a lot of moments when I was told that this wouldn’t be possible, that even just being out would wreck my ability to work. But it’s actually given me the ability to connect so deeply with my community and to collaborate with artists whose morals and values reflect and even inspire mine.

This past year, I got the chance to play Arrow on the CBC and HBO Max original series Sort Of, and if you told me that would’ve been my future when I first started my career, I don’t know if I would’ve even been able to imagine what that looked like.

I feel very similarly about drag. Performing as a drag king and as Gay Jesus has always felt very sacred to me. But since returning from lockdowns, the best way to describe the level of joy I feel is to tell you that my job involves me looking into a sea of happy queer people. I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

Last year, you performed virtually (due to COVID) for Knix HQ’s Pride party. How does it feel to be performing in person once again? 

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Ah, the virtual Knix HQ Party was one of the highlights of my Pride last year! Being back to in-person performances brings so much joy to get to see community in the flesh, however I must admit that there’s also an undercurrent of fear that’s constantly running through me.

Realistically speaking, Covid-19 is still very much present and threatening people’s health. If I’m totally honest, I’m constantly wondering if we’re all about to get sick and I’m constantly looking at rooms and wondering who’s missing.

There’s so much life in every room I get to step into, but I can’t help but think about how many people should still be here had this pandemic been handled differently and noticing who in our community is still unable to come out because of the lack of precautions in place.

There are many disabled members of our community and people who are immunocompromised or people who live with loved ones who are immunocompromised who’ve expressed frustration and their inability to come back to community spaces.

So it’s a mixed bag. There’s joy, there’s deep frustration, and there’s a lot of work left to be done.

As a drag artist and burlesque performer, you seamlessly weave together masculine and feminine elements. How have you cultivated a drag persona that feels authentic to you?

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I think three major elements that have allowed me to cultivate a drag persona that feels authentic to me have been listening to my gut instincts no matter how absurd they may seem, constantly learning, and giving myself permission to evolve.

Everyone has different things that excite them, different songs that give them chills, different favourite shades of lipsticks, different tastes for food. The same can apply to art and to creation.

As Gay Jesus I get to have full creative control over my creations and performances. No matter what’s around me and what I may perceive to be good or right, I’ve learned that I really have to lean into what excites me and what piques my interest.

It’s like when you hear a scientist get excited talking about their specialty. I’ve learned that I have to give myself permission to dive into my strange little interests even though they may seem off, or not necessarily correct. Those are always where the exciting bits live.

When we think of refining a craft, it’s often viewed in an academic sense, but as an artist I think of it more so in the ways we absorb the world. There’s so much I don’t know and the more I feed my brain, the more it has to play with and the more it can be inspired by.

Then there’s giving yourself permission to evolve. It’s something we do on a daily basis whether we want to or not which means that, because we’re changing as people, our artistry is also perpetually in flux.

It can be jarring sometimes to change parts of your work that feel foundational, but I think it’s important to honor who you’re becoming. I will say though, that the part that’s helped me re-find my center throughout these evolutions, has been returning to my roots and asking myself why I create art and perform drag in the first place.

The answer gets to change depending on where I’m at, but it’s always what helps me grounds my performances no matter where they may be growing toward. 

Drag is political — and with the influx of anti-drag and anti-trans legislation taking place down south, it feels like that has never been more true. Do social politics feel central to your work? 

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Social politics are absolutely central to my work. Politics were actually my main interest when getting involved with the arts in the first place.

Art, in its many forms, is a huge catalyst for social change, social commentary, and for activism. I’ve found that incorporating conversations about human rights, social change, and injustice into drag as a form of performance art and as a form of protest actually helps in tearing down barriers in terms of who feels they can be a part of those conversations.

Drag performance has the potential to transcend class and language in a way that makes these conversations accessible. It not only allows people to feel heard and seen, but it lets them know that they, too, get to be empowered in their voices.

What we’re seeing in regards to anti-drag and anti-trans legislation in America, and knowing the increase in protests and violence against 2SLGBTQ+ people in Canada, it makes me sick.

This idea that children need to be protected from drag artists and from trans people is incredibly transparent. Drag performers and trans people do not threaten the safety of children.

People and politicians who seek to control the bodies and educations of citizens in order to strengthen propaganda that targets the eradication of a marginalized group of people are the threat. Violence this severe needs to be called out for what it is and it needs to be stopped in its tracks.

How can folks — community members and allies alike​​ — push back against these injustices and offer support?

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This is such a big question but I think there’s a variety of things that can be done. I think firstly reaching out to your local government is extremely important.

We often forget, in the day to day, that our government works for its citizens. It’s fully within your rights to write and/or call your municipal, provincial, and even federal representatives.

Let them know that the protection of queer artists and of 2SLGBTQ+ rights is important to you. Ask them where they stand on it, what they’re doing to protect the queer community against current attacks, and what their steps are moving forward to prevent an attack on human rights.

Secondly, I think getting active within your community is super important. Learn the queer history of where you live and look into what community groups and organizations are there that you can contribute to. Learn from local activists and listen to what they’re asking for on a local level.

The more queer voices and perspectives we take in, the more it also allows ourselves to dismantle the pre-conceived notions that we may have internalized over time while also supplying us with the information it takes to open these conversations with friends, loved ones, and co-workers.

That’s where the potential discomfort comes in. Sometimes it’s hard to face some of the notions we hold, but we do need to confront them if we want to build a stronger society overall. Additionally, sometimes one on one conversations are really hard to have, but it’s in letting it slide that we allow these violences to build over time.

And finally, if it’s new to you or depending on your history with protest, it can be hard to put your body on the line and show up for protest and/or counter-protests. But I think it’s important to remember, whether it’s as allies or as queer people, that it’s Black and Latinx Trans Women that we have to thank for the rights we have today.

People who were sex workers, people who were poor, people who were Mad. People who lived in the most marginalized sector of our society who stood up and said no more.

I think that part of how we honor the work they did is by standing up and saying no more as a community and in a way that protects our most marginalized so that we’re able to achieve progress in a way that is supportive and equitable for our entire community.

On a lighter note, how are you planning on spreading trans joy this Pride?

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BY SMILING AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. That sounds so silly, but it’s truly part of my plan. I love my job, it’s honestly such an honor to get to do it every day. Part of how I plan on spreading trans joy this Pride is by celebrating and uplifting the trans people in my life on a personal level.

On a public level and on an artistic level, this year I’m thinking a lot about what it means to share the notion that it’s entirely possible to have a future as a trans person and to grow super amazingly old.

I turn 30 this year which is super young but, as a trans Latinx person, that technically means I’m entering my years as an elder. There’s nothing right about that, and I think a lot of our youth know that.

I think a lot of our community at large feels that very deeply across the board. But recently, while working with Prairie Theatre Exchange in Winnipeg, we had some GSA’s come and see the play and we got to read feedback from some of the students. There were a couple of them who spoke about how seeing a trans actor onstage gave them hope for their futures and for the world.

It reminded me of my wonderful friend and legendary activist Lezlie Lee Kam. Lezlie does this beautiful thing, where they wish for you to become a queer elder one day. The day they imparted that to me entirely changed the course of my life because it told me that I had a future, that I had the option of getting old.

It’s been a gift that I cherish very deeply. I hope that I can honor them and that teaching by making it known that trans futures are entirely possible. That our lives get to be lush, and exciting, and complicated, and loving, and full, and long.

Controversial question: if you could only perform one song for the rest of your life, what would it be?

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HOW DARE YOU. Weirdly, even though I have yet to perform it in person, the only song that’s played in my head every time I’ve read this question has been No Me Queda Más by Selena.

I sometimes like to think that I’m very chill and not dramatic and then I remember that I’ve been singing passionate heartbreak songs in Spanish since I had baby teeth. This song carries so many memories for me from moments shared with my family, to moments alone, to moments with the chosen family I get to have in my life today.

Additionally, it embodies such a richness of emotion. It carries deep love, it carries extravagance, it carries rage. But I think the thing that gets me about it is that it’s so brutally honest.

In our day to days, we don’t always like to admit how we feel, and this song not only voices it, but it makes no apologies for the levels at which it loved and the levels at which it’s lost. I think that’s one of the most beautiful things in the world. 

Is there anything else you want our readers to know?

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THAT THEY’RE AMAZING?! Yes. That they’re amazing. It means so much to me that anyone would take interest in my art and what I do, so it means a great deal that Knix reached out to me and that your wonderful readers would take the time to get to know me through this interview.

If they’d like to follow more of my adventures and come visit me throughout Pride events, the best place to find me is on Instagram.

I’m so grateful for what I do for a living, but I’m most grateful for the people that drag and burlesque has brought into my life and the ways they’ve deeply impacted my relationship to the world and my relationship to myself.

When I was trying on my new Knix garments just now, I looked in the mirror and smiled and it made me think of all the people that have made it possible for me to love myself while standing in the mirror in my underwear.

I hope today that you take the time to look in the mirror, whether you’re in your skivviest skivvies or just knowing they’re hiding under your outfit, and give yourself a smile.

You deserve every ounce of it.

Can you believe it? Coming out during a pandemic while we were all locked down — it's ironic, isn't it? 

For the past five years, I've been on an incredible body positive journey, a journey that all started with me quitting diet culture. I started stripping down to my underwear at iconic locations worldwide with huge groups of people through my perfectly imperfect social campaign. 

I want to show everyone that their body is beautiful, no matter the shape or size. Funny thing is, I started this project during Pride month in Toronto's gay village when I still thought I was straight. 

Life has a way of surprising us, doesn't it? But that's the beauty of it — I wanted to prove that we all deserve respect and dignity. 

Breaking Free From Diet Culture

When I made the life-changing decision to quit diet culture, it was time to embark on a journey of self-love, self-discovery, and emotional healing. I carried so much internalized fatphobia and self-loathing that I couldn't see beyond it. I was never satisfied. 

That's when I knew I had to do the emotional work, seek therapy, and unpack the trauma that held me back. I had to allow myself to be vulnerable, even if it meant sitting in fear and discomfort. 

It was during this process that I began openly questioning my sexuality for the first time in many years — that's when everything started to change. That’s when I started to come out to myself and publicly. 

My coming-out-journey wasn't a straight line (pun intended). I remember questioning my sexuality all the way back to childhood — we’re talking pre-k folks — but for the sake of this story, let's bring it back to university. 

In university I remember telling my boyfriend I might be bisexual. Wanting to explore that part of myself, I went to a gay bar hoping to flirt with a girl. But the experience didn't go as planned.

I realized that in terms of heteronormative standards, I displayed more masculine energy — initiating conversations, buying drinks — and my friends were unsupportive, almost mocking me. 

I didn’t fit into the heteronormative standards of being the more feminine one, and it scared me. Alas, I quickly retreated back into the closet, not to come out again until years later when I discovered my pansexuality and, eventually, embraced my identity as a lesbian. 

Coming Out 

Coming out can be scary — whether it's coming out to yourself or to the world. The truth is, you don't have to come out publicly if you're not ready. Your safety and well-being come first. 

But once you do come out, even if it's just to yourself, a tremendous sense of relief washes over you. It feels like a massive burden has been lifted from your chest, allowing you to finally breathe. 

The relief of knowing who you truly are — of no longer being confused and questioning your sexuality — brings a sense of calm and peace.

For me, coming out was terrifying. I thought for sure I was going to be rejected and abandoned. Initially, I came out as pansexual, which I don’t think my parents truly understood. 

In fact, my family thought it was funny to put pans in my bed for me to wake up to the following day. Hahaha, get it: PAN-SEXUAL?! 

Coming out as pansexual didn’t seem like a big deal, but coming out when I had a girlfriend, now that scared the hell out of me. That’s when it felt real. Though, the notion that I wasn’t truly queer before my first same-sex relationship is a total fallacy. 

In truth, the moment you come out to yourself as queer, your sexuality is valid. 

Embracing Evolution

Coming out isn’t linear — like any other facet of your identity, it’s likely to evolve over time. I consider my big coming out moment to be when I came out as a lesbian later that year. 

I remember thinking “there’s no going back.” I grieved the life I thought I would have. The life with the husband and children, you know the one with the white picket fence. It was in those days and months, hell, even today that I grieved what I thought my life would be and learned to embrace what it’s going to be. 

There are also the challenges of homophobia, gender pay gaps, discrimination, and prejudice to contend with. As anti-2SLGBTQ+ legislation takes hold in many parts of the world and, specifically, the United States, there’s newfound grief to contend with. 

Not to mention, these challenges of homophobia aren’t just taking place in the public sphere, but are happening right at home for me. Another layer of my journey involves living in an environment that’s extremely homophobic.

From being told that I can’t hang a Pride flag to having to withhold my identity from certain family members, it’s disheartening to say the least. My hope is that, in time, they will slowly start to accept me. 

Love Outshines Prejudice

As you reach the end of this article, I invite you to join me in a moment of reflection, sprinkled with a touch of personal insight. 

I firmly believe that every individual deserves love, dignity, and respect, regardless of their appearance, identity, or whom they love. And that's precisely why the queer community resonates with me so deeply. 

They cherish authenticity, shattering gender norms, and embracing diverse sexualities without hesitation. Their core values revolve around love and acceptance. It breaks my heart to think of those who still cling to homophobia, trapped in rigid and archaic beliefs. 

It stems from a lack of understanding, maybe even past trauma or overwhelming anger. But here's the thing: you don't have to subject yourself to that toxicity. Your happiness matters, and living authentically is the path to fulfillment. 

I made the brave decision to step into my truth and embrace my big, beautiful lesbian self — and you can do the same. Don't feel obliged to stay in an environment that isn't safe for you. Find your community, your chosen family who will love and support you unconditionally. 

Seek out conversations with like-minded individuals, even if it's online. Immerse yourself in the vibrant tapestry of queer culture. Above all, don't miss out on Pride, the celebration that reminds us we’re not alone and that love will always triumph. 

Coming out was the best decision I ever made and I could never go back to a life in the closet. I finally know what it feels to be gay and proud.

Your journey to self-discovery begins now, and I'm cheering you on every step of the way.

It's also an opportunity to show Indigenous-owned businesses some love—both this month and year-round. In honor of the occasion, we're spotlighting some of the Indigenous artisans and entrepreneurs within our community. 

Inspired by nature and often sustainability-focused, each purveyor brings unique elements of Indigenous culture and storytelling to their craft. 

Cheekbone Beauty 

“We are trailblazing the creation of a circular economy within the cosmetics space, not only through the selection of packaging but also through our formulas. At Cheekbone Beauty, we take great care when selecting materials and ingredients, making sure they reflect the latest scientific research.

We have strict in-house standards for packaging that prioritize recyclability, refillability, compostability, and biodegradability where possible. We encourage our suppliers to use recycled materials and aim to choose options that promote circularity. 

Our next step is to incorporate even more circular-friendly ingredients. We're excited to explore up-cycled and by-products from other industries to maximize circularity. Right now, our Illuminating Primer Stick features pentylene glycol sourced from an off-product of the food industry: sugar cane bagasse. It's a sustainable and eco-friendly alternative to traditional sourcing methods.

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Currently, we can't stop obsessing over our new refillable packaging for our Sustain Lipstick. Not only is it sustainable, but it also allows our customers to switch up shades depending on their mood. And by reducing waste going into landfills, it's a win-win for both you and the planet.

Our Sustain Lipstick features ethically sourced shea butter and other sustainable ingredients. Plus, they're locally made right here in Canada, minimizing their impact on people and the environment.

What we're really proud of is that each shade is named after an Indigenous word for "earth" or "land" in different Indigenous languages. As an Anishinaabe woman, representation and ensuring every Indigenous youth feels seen and heard is crucial to our brand. That's why using different Indigenous languages is so important to us.”

Kokom Scrunchies

“My name is Mya Beaudry and I am 12 years old and Algonquin from Kitigan Zibi. I am the creator behind Kokom Scrunchies, which I started in the fall of 2019. Kokom in my language means grandmother because they used to wear floral scarves on their heads when they worked outside. 

Starting Kokom Scrunchies was a result of me wanting to give back to the youth in my community. Since I started this journey, I always make sure that all my Kokom Scrunchies are handmade with love in Canada. 

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I have also named each of the original Kokom Scrunchies after Indigenous role models in my life as a way to give back and honor them. The Kokom Dana is my favorite because it’s named after my auntie Dana. 

She is the one who inspired me to give back and she also plays hockey just like me. Kokom Lola is the next one to highlight because she is my grandmother and I love her very much. She has taught me many different skills.”

Sequoia

“My name is Michaelee Lazore. I grew up in Akwesasne, NY (Mohawk Territory) where I developed my love for sciences and an appreciation for my Indigenous culture.

I spent my summers in Pyramid Lake, Nevada (Paiute Territory) with my grandmother who inspired my love for art. I currently live and operate in Kahnawake, Quebec (Mohawk Territory) where I really learned business.

What inspired me to start Sequoia was that 20 years ago, there seemed to be no women's products made for Indigenous women and I wanted to ensure such scents as sweetgrass, red clover, and sage were part of what we could use at home.

In fact, we put an actual blade of sweetgrass into every bar of our signature Sweetgrass Soap. 

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What makes our products so special is that Sequoia is a true representation of myself. The products are a mix of my art, science, and culture and allow me and my all Indigenous staff to tell our stories through our products. 

Great examples are Turtle Island Soap and our Canoe Candles. Turtle Island Soap is inspired by the Iroquois Creation Story and creation of North America. The soap is my interpretation of what it may have looked like from the Skyworld.”

Land of Daughters

“I originally started my candle company using vintage containers that I purchased from thrift stores. I wanted to give new life to something, and I've always loved candles and all things cozy so it seemed like a good fit. 

That went so well that I couldn't keep up with demand for my products, so I decided to rebrand into the Land of Daughters company I have today. Doing this allowed me to be able to get my products in the hands of everyone that wanted them.

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I think Land of Daughters products are special because we put a lot of effort into making unique scents. You can get basic scented candles anywhere, so we try to take a regular scent and put our own spin on it. We also make our products beautiful, so they double as home decor. 

The little things are the big things! Each day is made up of a bunch of little things, right? So I think we can transform our days by doing those little things that we love. Lighting a candle, spraying a linen spray, if those are the kind of things you're into, then those are the kind of things you should be doing every day.”

Fit Beside Me

“My name is Chelsey and I’m a wife, mom of two boys, and a small business owner. I’m also a pregnancy and postpartum fitness and nutrition coach. Exercise has always been important to me — after having my first baby, it became essential. 

I was so excited to go back to working out again after giving birth. As soon as I had my 6-week postpartum check with my OB, I signed up for a stroller class at my local rec center. Class was hard. I expected it to be challenging, but so many things felt different. I felt confused, sore, and unsupported. I pushed through the class, and then I didn’t return.

After my second baby, I knew I needed to do things differently. So I did what many moms do. In the middle of the night, feeding a newborn, I started googling. This led me to reputable, evidence-based information and certifications. I got certified and started my own business, all while on maternity leave. 

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I help moms with young families restore their core and pelvic floor, and find ways to make exercise fit into their lives without taking over it. With the majority of my programs being offered online, I’m able to work with moms from anywhere. 

Pregnancy brings a lot of change to a mom’s body. Much of that change is hard to see and accept, especially with the way the fitness industry typically is. Pregnancy is temporary, but postpartum is forever. 

Some of these changes are permanent. It took time for your body to grow and birth your baby, and it worked really hard to do that. But for some reason, we are made to feel like we need to immediately erase all the physical proof that we carried a child.

Moms have so much on their plates, every single day, the last thing I want them to worry about is the number on the scale or the size of their jeans. I want moms to feel strong and confident so that they can do whatever they want or need to do throughout the day without pain and without worrying about peeing their pants.”

This month, I had the opportunity to curate an Asian Heritage Month-themed box in partnership with Knix. It’s so exciting to shine a spotlight on creative makers and authors who share my heritage. 

Though this special box will only be shared with a select few within the Knix community, anyone can support the talented business owners and creatives who have poured elements of their background and culture into their creations. 

We’re fortunate to live in such a diverse community and I’m grateful for the opportunity to show some love to these Asian-owned businesses. 

Kami Food

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From Montreal, Kami Food was founded by Knix ambassador Mica Peng. Her superfood adaptogens blends — which include Turmeric Glow, Matcha Energy, and Cacao Calm — can be added to oatmeal, lattes, smoothies, yogurts, and desserts.

Make Nice Company 

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Make Nice Company aims to reduce the world’s consumption of single-use plastic waste with an ultra-concentrated Solid Dish Soap that replaces up to three bottles of traditional dish soap.  

All their soaps are 100% natural with vegan ingredients that are paraben-free and palm oil-free, and handmade in small batches in Vancouver. In 2022 alone, they diverted over 35,600 plastic dish soap bottles from landfills.

Three Ships Beauty

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Legend has it that the Fountain of Youth was discovered not by some impressive fleet, but just three ships...in other words, great discoveries can be made with limited resources. Taking this concept of simplicity, Three Ships believes that by using simple, naturally-effective skincare, you won’t need a 12-step routine or convoy of complicated products. 

Mystic Moon Creations

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Fill your space with crystal-inspired creations from Mystic Moon Creations. From handmade jewelry to suncatchers, fill your space with sparkle and good vibes.

Crafted Van

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CraftedVan specializes in magnetic bookmarks, magnets, and cards. From sushi characters to bubble tea and pho, all their bookmarks are designed with a smile, and designed to make you smile too. 

As they say, their characters cheer you up and always stay where you've last left them. Your new CraftedVan bookmark would be perfect for marking the pages of the three books we’ve included in our Knix Asian Heritage Month box. 

…and finally, for your reading enjoyment, we’ve also curated three books by Asian and South Pacific authors.

Two Times Removed: An Anthology of Indo Caribbean Fiction 

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Two Times Removed brings together a curated collection of 16 short stories written by the new generation of Indo-Caribbean storytellers. Together, these writers explore adolescence, relationships, trauma, family, identity and more, bringing to life the experiences of the modern day Indo-Caribbean. 

The Light of Eternal Spring 

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Amy Hilton, born Wu Aimee in the tiny Chinese village of Eternal Spring, has been living and working as a photographer in New York City for so long she’s started to dream in English.

When, in the fall of 1999 she receives a letter from her sister written in her birth tongue Manchu, she needs to take it to a Chinatown produce vendor to get it translated. And so it is this stranger who tells Amy that her mother has died of a broken heart…

Dear Divya 

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After a challenging year, Dear Divya follows 14-year-old Anjali Singh who is determined to change her reputation and social status as she enters her first year of high school. As the school year begins, Anjali finds herself having to navigate a new world of having Brown, Black, and Asian friends for the first time, meeting boys, and transitioning from old to new friendships. 

With a strict mother watching her closely, and a father who’s distant, Anjali proudly looks to her older sister Amara who is breaking intergenerational rules.

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If you were one of the lucky recipients of Knix’s Asian Heritage Month box, feel free to tag @ModernMixVan as you unbox the gift and enjoy the items inside, I'd love to hear your thoughts!