The self-help book that isn’t
Let’s face it, we aren’t perfect. And it’s unfair for us to be held responsible for the things we say when we are hungry. But while self-improvement and personal growth can often feel challenging, embarrassing, and straight-up unbearable, they don’t have to. There’s no shame in the self-help game, but if you’d rather save yourself the time and (buttloads of) money on therapy, read Whitney Cummings’ I’m Fine … and Other Lies first.
“A man using [the C-word] is grounds for me leaving the table immediately, which of course meant I dated him for another four months.”
Part comedy memoir and part self-help book, in I’m Fine … and Other Lies comedian and television producer Whitney Cummings gets honest AF. Whitney touches on everything from codependency to addiction, with a peppering of her signature self-deprecating humour and a peek behind the curtain of the comedy business—such as how roasts are written, and that time she hurt Carmen Electra’s feelings.
“When I hear someone say, “Being a comedian must be so hard for women,” I get annoyed because that’s just going to discourage more girls from pursuing it, and could scare them out of living their dream. And trust me, the last thing we need is more people with the desire to be comedians doing other jobs.”
Opening up about her own screw ups, in an effort to prevent others from making the same mistakes, Whitney reveals details more personal than you would expect from a celebrity. Confessions from her time spent in appointments with various mental health professionals include how she used to make a man her first priority—such a priority, in fact, that she ended up in Guatemala with a drug dealer she called her boyfriend.
But she doesn’t stop there. Whitney knows women’s issues. Whether it’s coping with an eating disorder or preparing to freeze your eggs, she’s been through it all, and she’s here to coach you through it (yes, she’s had her boobs done, and yes, she’s opening up about it). Among the pages of “The Codependence Chapter” and “The Self Help Chapter”, Whitney even offers activities you can do on dates, with friends, or solo to learn more about yourself and to manifest positive relationships and experiences into your life.
“Look, after this ordeal, I may never have kids. I may sell the eggs I froze on eBay. Or I may have kids from my eggs, then sell the kids on eBay. Who knows?”
Ultimately, Cummings’ mission isn’t to preach to you or try to change you, but to help you “learn how to stop being crazy and laugh while doing it.” Who doesn’t have room to feel a little less crazy and laugh a little more?
“My point is, maybe I’m not strong. Maybe I’m fragile and vulnerable and terrible at snowboarding, and maybe that’s just fine.”
HEY WHITNEY, IF YOU’RE READING THIS: It’s come to our attention that, on top of the many issues you share in your book, you also have to deal with excessive sweating. Well, what do you know? We happen to have a solution. Whit, slide into our DMs so we can send you a Don’t Sweat It T-shirt!
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